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Old 01-13-2018, 02:10 PM   #1 (permalink)
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I just watched this thing where this individual asks to be referred to as they or them pronouns. Which is something I don't understand. Isn't they or them suppose to refer to multiple people?

I understand it's a genderless word, but it seems counter intuitive to the language to use a words that, from what I've always been told, refers to multiple people.

Wouldn't "it" work better as a pronoun?
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Old 01-13-2018, 02:48 PM   #2 (permalink)
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If you were on the phone with a stranger and didn't know their gender would you refer to them as it?

"It said the pizza will be ready in 20mins."

We use they and them in the singular form commonly in English, it really takes minimal effort to alter your vocabulary. If you don't want to use a pronoun use their name.
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If you were on the phone with a stranger and didn't know their gender would you refer to them as it?

"It said the pizza will be ready in 20mins."

We use they and them in the singular form commonly in English, it really takes minimal effort to alter your vocabulary. If you don't want to use a pronoun use their name.
I've never heard anyone use they or them singularly til more recently. Examples?
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You probably have and just don't remember. People use they/them all the time; it is not a recent thing. (for instance, when two people are expecting a guest, the person who doesn't know said guest might say "When are they getting here?" I hear people use it in that way all the time, always have)
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Here's an example, Blank:

You're with your buddy, when you see a shadow outside. Stepping closer to the window, you begin to make out the silhouette of a person. Though the face and even the gender of the figure are yet a mystery to you, you notice a familiar shape extending out of their grasp.

Friend: What's wrong?

You: I think there's someone standing out there...

You play with the slats to get a better look, but the shadow disappears.

Friend: Are you serious? Who is it?

After peering into the darkness for a moment, searching for the figure, you sigh and give up.

You: I don't know. I think they're gone.
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I've never heard anyone use they or them singularly til more recently. Examples?
"They said the pizza will be ready in 20mins."

"I was talking to Karen and they can't make the event. I hope they are feeling ok."

"I follow Rex on Instagram and they post a lot of dog photos."

"Everyone did their best on the exam."
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You probably have and just don't remember. People use they/them all the time; it is not a recent thing. (for instance, when two people are expecting a guest, the person who doesn't know said guest might say "When are they getting here?" I hear people use it in that way all the time, always have)
I've never heard that. Usually in those scenarios they refer to the person by name, or as an individual.
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I've never heard that. Usually in those scenarios they refer to the person by name, or as an individual.
"I don't remember Casey, have I met them before?"
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"I don't remember Casey, have I met them before?"
I hate to come off as this guy, but I never hear this.

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"I don't remember Casey, have I met that him before?"
That is more in line with what I hear people say.
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Whether you've heard it before or not doesn't negate the fact that it is common.
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