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View Poll Results: Can you blame the victim for getting raped when raping someone is illegal?
Yes 7 13.73%
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Old 07-05-2013, 12:33 PM   #21 (permalink)
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You're correct, we are discussing conflicting values. Would there be a discussion otherwise? Not to mention that my post was an attempt to understand how people on the other side of the coin see the debate, not a bewildered post at the fact that something like an opinion could be different from my own.
It's not a discussion, it's a circle jerk. You said, "some other factor that deludes a moron's manner of thinking", not because you're actually curious about "understanding how people on the other side of the coin see the debate", but because you're interested in affirming your religiosity.
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Old 07-05-2013, 12:41 PM   #22 (permalink)
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It's not a discussion, it's a circle jerk. You said, "some other factor that deludes a moron's manner of thinking", not because you're actually curious about "understanding how people on the other side of the coin see the debate", but because you're interested in affirming your religiosity.
Well, you have the right to your opinion, but don't make up your own facts. I was interested in the opposite side, I just couldn't find any reasoning that seemed logical in any sense to me. If you have more convincing reasons (I'm sure you can conjure up some that you find appealing), I'm all ears.
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Old 07-05-2013, 01:58 PM   #23 (permalink)
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The Steubenville case was:

1 - A bunch of football players were given an environment wherein they were allowed to exercise power, and be favoured by the system, for a variety of illegal or just horrible, things.

2 - The football players abused this environment in order to rape an underaged girl.

3 - The girl reported this, yet the people who supported the football players excesses, used their authority and power in order to try and cover up the case, including the local sheriff, and many educational authority figures, who attempted to conspire together to get the rapists off scot-free.

4 - The internet finds out and conducts a campaign (With Anonymous involved), to get these people brought to justice.

5 - While this campaign is going on and the scandal is blowing up, lots of people on twitter end up victim blaming, and trying to claim that the victim "deserved" it, or was "Slutty". I recall many tweets that said words to the effect of "If you don't want to get raped don't go to a party and get drunk underaged".

6 - A slew of newspapers, after some of the rapists were successfully convicted, ran sympathetic stories about how the rapists lives were now ruined, framing them as "Promising young athletes" and trying to downplay how horrible their crime was.

Obviously the above is reprehensible and horrible. This is victim blaming and this is how it comes to light in society.









I am fully with Tore and Lateralus here - The idea that someone can be responsible for their own rape is ridiculous and stupid. The rapist bears full responsibility.
That's bloody awful. We have that happen a lot more often than is necessary (including Auzzie). Our top Rugby stars often end up forcing women who are interested in them to have sex with a group of them (while they are date raped/intoxicated) and then the girl wakes up the next day realising she had no interest in getting raped by 10 men and merely wanted attention from just one player. I've noticed the reaction when this happens in Australia is people often blame the victim and say because she went back to their hotel she was "asking for it". Luckily over here the Ruby Associations usually say that they will discipline and investigate the players involved. The media here usually sides with the victim because they love a shocking story to sell more papers. Sad but true.

Anyway, I'm am of the opinion that it's definitely not the victim's fault, whether they were raped by their own partner, a Rugby player, a politician or John Doe from down the the road.

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It's not a discussion, it's a circle jerk. You said, "some other factor that deludes a moron's manner of thinking", not because you're actually curious about "understanding how people on the other side of the coin see the debate", but because you're interested in affirming your religiosity.
From the sounds of it you are disagreeing with our opinions that are "circle jerking"?
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Old 07-05-2013, 05:11 PM   #24 (permalink)
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The only way it can be the 'victims' fault I'd say would be in some individual cases where you have a 16ish year old having consensual sex with someone a few years older since that is technically rape.
A 16 year old apparently "consenting" to sex with someone a few years older than them is actually considered pedophilia in many instances...

The point is that in many cases 16 year old children are not old enough to make appropriate and safe decisions for themselves, and that someone older than them may take advantage of this. That is why the laws are there to protect these children. Anyone older than 18 should be aware of this and be smart enough to not have sex with anyone 16 and under even if they say they consent to the sexual act.

If a 10 year old consented to having sex with someone older would that be considered rape? Or consensual? Where do you draw the line? If a 16 year old can make decisions for themselves, why can't a 10 year old?
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Exactly. I agree, tore. There was a recent, awful rape/murder case in Melbourne, Australia recently involving a 29 year old Irish woman living here, Jill Meagher. She was walking home, alone, from a pub in the wee hours of the morning when she was dragged into an alleyway, raped and murdered.

As always, when there is a rape case, there were a variety of comments floating around about how it was her fault that she had decided to walk home alone, that it was her fault because she was probably intoxicated and not thinking straight, I remember even hearing that it was her fault because she was wearing high heels and makeup or something (what the?). I agree that it probably wasn't the best idea to walk home alone at night while intoxicated. However, that does NOT under any circumstances mean that she holds any bit of fault to being raped and murdered. She was not "asking for it."
It's very important to point out that the man who raped her, Adrian Ernest Bayley, was out on bail and parole and had a number of rape convictions to his name. In this case she was certainly not to blame no matter what state she was in and how she was dressed as this was a man who was a menace to women and who should not have been out roaming the streets in the first place.
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It's very important to point out that the man who raped her, Adrian Ernest Bayley, was out on bail and parole and had a number of rape convictions to his name. In this case she was certainly not to blame no matter what state she was in and how she was dressed as this was a man who was a menace to women and who should not have been out roaming the streets in the first place.
Exactly, yet there are some really screwed-up victim-blaming people out there who still believe that rape victims will always hold a little bit of accountability, despite the circumstances. It makes me sick.
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Old 07-05-2013, 06:09 PM   #27 (permalink)
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I thought this said: Rope - Whose fault is it?
Who are the weirdos who voted yes?
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Old 07-05-2013, 06:40 PM   #28 (permalink)
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Well, you have the right to your opinion, but don't make up your own facts. I was interested in the opposite side, I just couldn't find any reasoning that seemed logical in any sense to me. If you have more convincing reasons (I'm sure you can conjure up some that you find appealing), I'm all ears.
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I can get back to you with what I've felt are some of the more compelling reasons, but most of them use rape as a general critique of the Liberal (Capitalist/Democratic) Paradigm.

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A 16 year old apparently "consenting" to sex with someone a few years older than them is actually considered pedophilia in many instances...
Paedophilia refers to sex with prepubescent individuals.
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Old 07-05-2013, 06:49 PM   #29 (permalink)
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Paedophilia refers to sex with prepubescent individuals.
My bad, for some reason I thought the laws extended to 16 in certain cases, but I just looked it up and I am wrong

Regardless, I still think that a 16 year old in many cases is unable to make safe decisions for themselves which is why the law exists regarding someone 2+ years old than them having sex as counted as rape, or whatever that law is.
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Old 07-05-2013, 07:24 PM   #30 (permalink)
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When I was 16 I slept w/ a 41 yr old then when I was 17 I slept w/ a 60 yr old. I did these things bc I was angry.
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