Dr_Rez

Plently of studies have been done showing that the more education a person has, the less kids they ultimately end up with.

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Key

The best benefit? No kids. Simple.

Burning Down

I really want a child. Not more than two though, and I have had this conversation with my boyfriend and he agrees with me. Hopefully before I'm 35, as after 35 the chances for genetic mutations are greater, and also the chances of the child having autism. Nothing wrong with autistic children (my brother is) but its a lot of work and money to care for them. I don't think I could deal with that (but then again, neither did my parents and they've done okay). I have grown up surrounded by children as my mom runs a daycare out of the house. I think I just have that maternal instinct engrained inside me. Plus I am going to be a teacher and want to devote my life to children's education, more specifically music education (as it's quite important in a child's development, but that is a whole other topic right there).

My child will be wanted and loved by us. I will have a good paying job and my child will have a good quality life and will be provided with a good education. I am not having a child to appease society's expectations - that is the wrong reason to have a child. I will not be giving up my life by having a child - that idea is constantly pushed upon me by friends and family who have chosen to be child free (and I don't judge their choice, since it's a commendable choice, so it's extremely rude of them to say things like that to me).

If I can't have a child for whatever reason, I'm not going to let that bother me. Or I will at least try not to let it get to me. I'm hesitant in going the adoption route since its quite costly here and since I have a couple of adopted relatives who have caused some big drama within our once tight knit family, so I don't want that experience. I understand why people choose adoption though.

I have noticed that there is a problem with bratty kids lately, and honestly I believe it's due to the fear that parents have of saying NO to their child. Most of them are either my age OR older parents in their forties who waited forever to have a child and are afraid to discipline their precious baby. Too many kids are so spoiled now due to lax parenting. Those kids are the ones you see and hear out in public, with bad manners or screaming because they didn't get the latest toy. If you can't say no to your kid now, when they are teenagers they are going to think they can get away with whatever they want!

Wow, ginormous post. TL;DR: I want kids.

butthead aka 216

Id be down for a variation of this. Also sterilize violent repeat criminal offenders. My theory is that educated ppl wait long to have fewer kids becsuse they're smarter and realize more realistically the challenges of parenthood and they have more to live for. They hsve a more important purpose.

Burning Down

Do you support eugenics by any chance? There's actually a whole thread on that issue, also started by ladyislingering.

butthead aka 216

Yah I do but I also realize the slippery slope of it all. Eliminate serious birth defects. I really don't see a legit way to stop losers from having kids.

As for bratty kids.... I think there's a middle ground that parents have trouble finding. You either have the ones who are too shortsighted to see the value of punishment long term. Or maybe some are scared to be too harsh. Then ya have the ones who beat the hell outta their kids and get them placed in group homes. We can al agree the wrong ppl continoudly have kids.

Btw I'm totally for spanking and those who are pseudo activists against it are pussies

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Meanwhile you're going to litter the world with children and ladyislingering won't. The people who should procreate don't and the ones who shouldn't do. **** it all.

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GuD

There have been plenty of studies done on this and it's been proven that positive reinforcement (praising good behavior) is waaaaaaaaaaaaaaay more effective than physically punishing a child (there's a term for this in psychology but I don't remember it). Check your macho bull**** at the door and get learnt. All your teaching a child to do when you spank them is fear you, which can actually make things worse. Maybe not immediately but it almost never works out for the best.


As for me, I know for a fact I don't want kids anytime soon but I'm open to the idea of it in the future. My mom had me when she was my age (21) and it was always a struggle for her, especially since she was a single parent. I'll stick by my son or daughter if I ever have one with somebody but that somebody is gonna hafta be pretty awesome.

butthead aka 216

I'm really not sure how any of that opposes anythin I support lol. Was it supposed to?

GuD

You said you are in favor of spanking.

I explained to you that praising a child's good behavior has been scientifically proven to be better for that child's development than punishing bad behavior, physically or otherwise.

Can you not read?