The Sexual Experience Thread

[FETCHER.]

Originally Posted by Barnard17

I think your main problem isn't their lack of commitment, it's that he's a ****ing idiot.

agreed, guys a tool obviously. i can see your point though, he does seem immature, and he does seem not to be able to commit. only thing i could say is lose him if you havent already..
only my opinion though

[Freebase Dali]

I dunno... I wouldn't condone a guy leading a girl to believe he actually wants a relationship when he doesn't, nor some of the other particulars mentioned, but I don't see the problem with being at a point in your life where you're just out for the booty and not a relationship.
Obviously you make it known to the girl, but sometimes it's not a guy being afraid of commitment and/or being immature, but him making a conscious choice to not get involved with someone he's not 100 percent able to commit to because of whatever factors in his life.

For example, I sure do like the booty, and when I get an opportunity to land it, I do so. But I'm not roaming the streets trying to find a relationship right now. I've got school to worry about, getting a new place, and eventually settling into a new career and getting my affairs in order.
Now is not the time for me to divide my attention and energy, and it's a wise choice, because I know how I am in relationships and I know what's priority for me right now.
Not looking for a relationship doesn't exclude me from the booty, nor does the booty require a contractual relationship obligation. If I feel like the girl may be trying to get involved, it's mature to clarify the intentions and cut if off right there.

I just think that guys, and girls, get a bad rap for being in this position when they're actually making mature decisions but taking advantage of opportunities that present themselves.


Again, I'm not condoning the behavior of the guy that poster is talking about.
I just wanted to inject another perspective into the matter, because it's definitely not a black and white one.

[Barnard17]

Originally Posted by Freebase Dali

Again, I'm not condoning the behavior of the guy that poster is talking about.
I just wanted to inject another perspective into the matter, because it's definitely not a black and white one.

Oh I totally agree. God knows I'm not one to be getting into a deep relationship at this time in my life and am far more enjoying getting tail without the necessity of an attachment. I wouldn't claim to anyone that I'm looking for long term attachment, unless they were quite exceptional.

I referred to Delira's bloke as a ****ing idiot because he's trying to string two girls along at the same time. Which is stupid.

[Freebase Dali]

Definitely. Not to mention his baby mamma gonna garnish them wages boyeee.

[Delira]

Rofl... well I let him string me along till the other girl got pregnant. Partly my falut but more on his part.

-shrug- he's out anyways. Kicked his ass to the curb and even after he asked for another booty call lol. I asked him if we can still be friends cause we're close and he told me:

"I can't. I will want to be with you, just being near you gets me turned on. Don't think it will work." _blocked me and deleted me possibly lol.

Either way - I got a new bf outta the whole ordeal and things could only get better from here on lol.

[Freebase Dali]

Wow... you sure do like to constantly be in a relationship, huh?
Don't you ever like to take a breather and enjoy the free life every once in a while? It's a stress reliever. And it gives you time to think about what you really want out of life and love.
It's good to take those things slowly. You end up making better decisions down the way that are based more on your needs than on your emotions.

Just a thought.

[Delira]

Originally Posted by Freebase Dali

Wow... you sure do like to constantly be in a relationship, huh?
Don't you ever like to take a breather and enjoy the free life every once in a while? It's a stress reliever. And it gives you time to think about what you really want out of life and love.
It's good to take those things slowly. You end up making better decisions down the way that are based more on your needs than on your emotions.

Just a thought.

lol
2006-2008 was that "time" to reflect thank you. I know what I'm looking for.
I had my fun, I got bored of it and when it came time for the sh*thead to decide whether or not he wanted with me, he left me hanging so I cut him loose and ended up landing with a guy who is what I've been looking for (current bf).

[Freebase Dali]

*nods head slowly*

If I had a dime for every time a 19 year old girl thought she knew what she wanted...


Ew that sounds creepy.

[Delira]

rofl. I have gone through a lot to know what I don't want and what I want.
Current Bf... is a creepy match and we're a lot a like. Bouns if I can enjoy silence between us without the need to fill it. That is hard to find with me.

[Freebase Dali]

Me too.
I know I want to eat food every day, and I know I don't want to get run over by a minivan. (mostly because it would be super embarrassing)