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explosions-in-my-pants · 03-03-2006, 11:26 AM

congrats for coming out.. you have guts. my cuz finally came out when he was 29 that was 5 years ago..

do your parents know your gay, if so how are they handling it?
i'm just wondering because my cuz, well his parents still deny he is gay whenever someone brings up setting him up or something, and they go "he's not gay he just has met the right girl, and then change the subject"

but why did you choose to tell us about you coming out?

judas_priest · 03-03-2006, 12:40 PM

yeah, I admire your courage too and respect you for coming out, Adidasss.

When did you need support Urban?

adidasss · 03-03-2006, 01:05 PM

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Originally Posted by explosions-in-my-pants

but why did you choose to tell us about you coming out?

because i'm a sad pathetic loser and i consider MB to be my alternate family? i've shared pretty much everything of any importance that happened to me in the time i've been here, this was by far the biggest thing i had to go through, i couldn't keep it to myself.....and i was well proud of myself.

i've avoided making any refferences to my being gay on this forum ( aside from the gay jokes i'm prone to make ) simply because it's grown on me and i ( i tried explaining this to other people ), i didn't want you to make any assumptions about my character before you got to know me better....perhapse it's a stupid way to think, but i don't have much experience in dealing with this matter.

no, i've not told my parents and that's not likely to happen any time soon, my mother is a devout catholic and it would crush her, my father and brother are belligerant homophobics, no good could come of telling them, and there's no hope they would understand or be even remotely sympathetic.
my other two sisters ( yes, i have a rather large family ) i might tell some day, but to tell you the truth, my youngest sister is the only one i could safely assume would not completely freak out on hearing the news and the only one i can trust not to use this information against me ( i love all my sisters, but the two older ones can be vindictive bitches ).

i'm closest with my youngest sister, i've often said on this site that she's like my twin, she's only a year older and she's my best friend. the other ones, i don't get along with so well....and their views on homosexuality ( especially oldest sister's and brother's) are discouraging to say the least....we've all been brought up in the same conservative, catholic narrow minded comunity. i was born this way and was forced to deal with my prejudices, they were not. perhapse telling them one day will also force them to re-evaluate their views....

explosions-in-my-pants · 03-03-2006, 01:15 PM

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Originally Posted by adidasss

because i'm a sad pathetic loser and i consider MB to be my alternate family? i've shared pretty much everything of any importance that happened to me in the time i've been here, this was by far the biggest thing i had to go through, i couldn't keep it to myself.....and i was well proud of myself.

good be proud of yourself.. but i'm not that proud of you, you came out to people over the internet. but i am pround that you came out to your sister.. that was a good move on your part.. i will be really proud once i read on here someday that you've come out to your parents.

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i've avoided making any refferences to my being gay on this forum ( aside from the gay jokes i'm prone to make ) simply because it's grown on me and i ( i tried explaining this to other people ), i didn't want you to make any assumptions about my character before you got to know me better....perhapse it's a stupid way to think, but i don't have much experience in dealing with this matter.

gay power!.. don't really care that your gay... i have gay friends and family.. (men) and doesn't bother me.. but it bothers my best friend (who is male and striaght) that i always talk and act arund him as if he were gay... but sometimes i guess it can't be that bad..

liek real life will&Grace.. only he's not gay

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no, i've not told my parents and that's not likely to happen any time soon, my mother is a devout catholic and it would crush her, my father and brother are belligerant homophobics, no good could come of telling them, and there's no hope they would understand or be even remotely sympathetic.

umm it probably would be a good idea to tell them at some point.. cause then your hiding from your family.. i mean you'd tell strangers and random friends that your gay but you choose not to tell the ones that raised you..
what if you start going out with some guy and fall inlove.. what then.. what if you want to marry, and adopt kiddies?
by not telling them your making your life more stressful.. if you don't tell them sure you;d never have to hear the fuss about you being gay and all that God bullshit about being gay.. but really are you willing to go the rest of your life hiding from telling your family who you really are?

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i'm closest with my youngest sister, i've often said on this site that she's like my twin, she's only a year older and she's my best friend. the other ones, i don't get along with so well....and their views on homosexuality ( especially oldest sister's and brother's) are discouraging to say the least....we've all been brought up in the same conservative, catholic narrow minded comunity. i was born this way and was forced to deal with my prejudices, they were not. perhapse telling them one day will also force them to re-evaluate their views...

you are who you are, and if you believe in god, don't believe all you hear and read in the BOOK!. cause well if god made you, he made you just the way you are.. Gay.. and whatever else your like.. so look at it like that.. clearly god made you this way for a reason or some sort.. so he must not hate you..

and to all those people out there, i do believe people are born gay and don't become it over time.

Fenixpunk · 03-03-2006, 01:17 PM

this is one of the deepest conversations ive seen here in along time.

TheBig3 · 03-03-2006, 01:17 PM

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Originally Posted by right-track

Why...because he has emotions and is human...not some robotic, middle class American Bostonian android.

*contemplates whether there will be an imminent increase in warning points*

I would imagine it would be something of a relief, not something that would make you feel more ill than repression. Asking that question doesn't make me an andriod, I was getting at the fact that he shouldn't be ashamed of anything, simplistic backwater british stupidity.

Mama Booze · 03-03-2006, 01:23 PM

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Originally Posted by adidasss

at 4am this morning, i sent my sister a message saying i'm gay ( probably the most difficult and gutsy thing i did in my life to date ).....3 hours later she responded....20 messages after that, she said it was cool....

)

a big shout out to all the people that suffered my relentless bitching about the subject during the past several months, i could not have done it if it weren't for you, for which i will be eternaly grateful...

Whoa, I didn't know you were ***, props to you

Todaaayy, I went to school, was tired all day, and in gym I found out a "special" person liked me...it's cute hehehe. Now I'm home.

right-track · 03-03-2006, 01:25 PM

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Originally Posted by TheBig3KilledMyRainDog

I would imagine it would be something of a relief, not something that would make you feel more ill than repression. Asking that question doesn't make me an andriod, I was getting at the fact that he shouldn't be ashamed of anything, simplistic backwater british stupidity.

I understood your query to adidasss (notice the wink smiley).
As for the rest of your comment above, I'll let adidasss answer if he so chooses.

British is spelt with a capital 'B'.

adidasss · 03-03-2006, 01:39 PM

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Originally Posted by explosions-in-my-pants

good be proud of yourself.. but i'm not that proud of you, you came out to people over the internet. but i am pround that you came out to your sister.. that was a good move on your part.. i will be really proud once i read on here someday that you've come out to your parents.

the point of the original post was not to come out to MB, but to share a profound moment in my life, "coming out" was just a side-effect, one of little importance at this point. all the people i really cared about i've already told throught msn.

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Originally Posted by explosions-in-my-pants

y umm it probably would be a good idea to tell them at some point.. cause then your hiding from your family.. i mean you'd tell strangers and random friends that your gay but you choose not to tell the ones that raised you..
what if you start going out with some guy and fall inlove.. what then.. what if you want to marry, and adopt kiddies?
by not telling them your making your life more stressful.. if you don't tell them sure you;d never have to hear the fuss about you being gay and all that God bullshit about being gay.. but really are you willing to go the rest of your life hiding from telling your family who you really are?

i suppose i am planning on telling them one day, but only after i get a job and move out....that way it will be their choice if they want to deal with it or cut me out of their life. sadly, at this point i have to say they would be more than willing to disown me and never speak to me again than to try and understand. their hatered goes that deep....

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Originally Posted by explosions-in-my-pants

you are who you are, and if you believe in god, don't believe all you hear and read in the BOOK!. cause well if god made you, he made you just the way you are.. Gay.. and whatever else your like.. so look at it like that.. clearly god made you this way for a reason or some sort.. so he must not hate you..

this is something i probably shouldn't go into with you or anyone else that's not catholic, i think you couldn't understand what it means to be gay and catholic and the psychological repercussions of it. i'm 23, i didn't realize i'm gay yesterday, i've batteled with this issue for the most part of my adult life and have finally come close to a place where i can be happy with who and what i am, and that God will not frown on my happiness....but this is something i have to work on by myself....

adidasss · 03-03-2006, 01:42 PM

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Originally Posted by right-track

I understood your query to adidasss (notice the wink smiley).
As for the rest of your comment above, I'll let adidasss answer if he so chooses.

British is spelt with a capital 'B'.

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Originally Posted by adidasss

it seems very much surreal, when you've kept that a secret and burried it deep inside for so long ( self protection was a big reason for that ), it being out is a lot to take

this was meant for big3

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03-03-2006, 11:26 AM	#561 (permalink)
explosions-in-my-pants angel of tragic days Join Date: Jan 2006 Posts: 924	congrats for coming out.. you have guts. my cuz finally came out when he was 29 that was 5 years ago.. do your parents know your gay, if so how are they handling it? i'm just wondering because my cuz, well his parents still deny he is gay whenever someone brings up setting him up or something, and they go "he's not gay he just has met the right girl, and then change the subject" but why did you choose to tell us about you coming out?

03-03-2006, 12:40 PM	#562 (permalink)
judas_priest Metal Maiden Join Date: Jul 2005 Posts: 644	yeah, I admire your courage too and respect you for coming out, Adidasss. When did you need support Urban?