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Originally Posted by s_k
Allright. I understand.
Next thing isn't really a reaction to your posting, but I'll just put it up here anyway.
I have this strange thing with funerals.
I've been to one and I try to avoid them like ****.
It really feels like a forced way to say goodbye. I'd rather do this in my own time.
I don't need to see a coffin.
I have an uncle I really really like who is probably going to die of cancer really soon.
I'm not sure if I'll be going. I should talk about this with him. It's a pretty nasty thing but I just can't see why I should go...
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Exactly, you and I view funerals the same way. One reason I hate funerals is because it's basically an impromptu family reunion and I really don't like some of my extended relatives.
Two, funerals are a way for people to cope with the person they have lost. I rather do it on my own terms and in my own time. I don't need the support system of others. My stupid step sister got off contact with me after my dad passed because I didn't show up for his funeral. She didn't want to understand my point of view on funerals.
Third reason I don't like funerals is because I have this weird defense mechanism that when too much sadness is around I tend to get happy and smile inappropriately. If i'm forced to attend a funeral it's very hard for me. One time, I busted out laughing during the Eulogy and was kicked out of a proceedings because of my mechanism.