my uncle is a sort of spiritual medium to Taoist-Buddhist gods and he advised my mother that I shouldn't go to funerals as it would upset my "lifeline"
i believe in that even though I'm a Christian
so I have a valid excuse NOT to attend funerals - unless it'ss inevitable like my granny as I was the eldest grandson on the male lineage - even then, Taoist-Buddhist funerals tend to be quite fun - there's a lot of atonal dissonant music and bizarre chanting
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