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I know for me personally, those are not in any way 'make it or break it' traits. The only exception I think, would be the confidence one. I had a ex bf that was ALWAYS needing reassurance; saying he didn't get why I was w/ him, that I was 'slumming', wanting me to tell him I love him like every single text, yada, yada. And the thing is, I honestly liked him a lot when we were first talking/hanging out, etc. But as soon as we got together, he started w/ all that nonsense and it totally changed the dynamic :/ It was like, 'So you're questioning my judgment in wanting to be w/you?" Wtf?? Plus it was just really annoying. I dunno...needless to say, it didn't work out. lol
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I get how that can be annoying but confidence is pretty hard to learn for some guys. It's almost just like how it's pretty hard for some women to get over their self esteem issues.
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I agree  I would never date a guy that treated me poorly, no matter how hot he was. Besides, a guy can't be truly 'hot' to me anyway unless he also has a personality that appeals to me (witty, bright, kind, considerate, etc.)... which a jerk undoubtedly wouldn't, lol. |
Actually, it's that's not all true. The jerks/douches can fake that pretty well and that's how they get certain girls. Well they are witty across the board but the fake the kindness and being considerate part enough to get by and once they have had the girl or are in a relationship then they show their true colors. The girl then decides to stay with the guy because of her falling in love with the image that he used to portray when they first met and she feels like he can be that person again but he can't really because his true colors can't be changed.
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Also, 'Badassness' can take different forms, imo. I think a guy can be badass w/o being an a**hole
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that's rare, they usually go hand in hand.
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And same for guys who date mean girls, too. I know a guy who is in love w/ a girl who treats him quite terribly. And he asked her to marry him! (which btw, she said yes IF he would change all these things on a list she handed him. And they weren't little things like 'pick up your clothes off the floor'. It was like stuff about who he was. ) And he is still going to marry her....I don't get it.
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omfg! no she DIDN'T! After reading that list I would rip it up in her face and blow the torn pieces at her. What a sad little beta male. it's a shame.