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Originally Posted by Freebase Dali
I meant the ball thing more as a representation of them figuratively belonging to someone else, or not doing you any good to begin with. It's a comment toward the atypical attitude you have as a male, which should be evident by the comments many here have said, regarding your relationship with your ex girlfriend, and women in general.
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I dunno. I won't deny doing something extra for a girl now and then hoping to score at some point (and I mean scoring as in friends with benefits or a relationship, whatever). I'm pretty male when it comes to that. But the typical male/female negativity amongst sexes is indeed not my style. I like my friends, both male and female. Why should I join in on talking negatively about women? My experience is just different
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I'm not saying you should beat your chest and claim the Jane prize or anything... just making an observation that you come off as the kind of guy that would be having a sleepover with the girls, and giggling with them while gossiping about the guys.
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Anything except the giggling and the gossiping, yeah. I have had sleepovers with girls without trying anything. Even after I told them I'd **** them if I could.
I can honestly say I have no female friend I wouldn't have sex with, given the opportunity. But I can be friends with girls
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It's just a choice. I should say that patience often really works. You still are 'boy and girl', there will be a spark at some time. I'm not sure why, but it just happens. There is always a point in time in which you say 'hey... I might like you a bit more than I thought before'. And I don't mind being friend until that happens. I don't mind being friends if it never happens either.
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I imagine girls seeing you as nothing more than "a friend", simply because that's the only attitude you ever give them.
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Haha, no wait, you may be missing something here.
I am really careful with what I say here because I know that, because of the language barrier, things can come over all freaky. I don't want that.
But I make very clear to the girls I know in person how much I like them and I must say it does pay off. I may not be the 'slutty' type, but I do get my chances
. I don't take them all, though. That's something different. Eitherway, I do sex talk, girls know I hit on them and sometimes (rather often, actually) it's mutual. I don't really see how or why.
I somehow manage to stay on that thin line between friends zone and friends with benefits or a relationship. I'm not sure how I do that. But I'm sure as hell not going to change it.
I do choose friendship over sex, yes. But sometimes the two combine neatly