I've definitely possible to love multiple people in your life; I have. There's been a lot of infatuation in there as well, but I definitely love(d) the two girls I've had long term relationships with. There's no other way to describe the feelings I had for them. Circumstances change, love can fade. It's not this thing that you'll only ever get once in your life, it's a feeling of content devotion to a person, where you will do everything you can to help them and are happy to spend the rest of your life with them. Both with my ex and my current gf, I felt and feel that way. Does that mean that I was lying to myself the first time? I certainly don't think so.
Secondly, Impossible as you may think it, I have never had sex with a woman I didn't love. That said, I've only ever had sex with two women, both of whom I've been in very long relationships with. That isn't to say that I would only have sex with a woman I love, it's simply the way that it worked out.
Thirdly, I have absolutely no problems with monogamy. I've always been a one-girl guy, there has never really been more than one girl that I wanted to get with at any one time, and now that I'm in a relationship, I feel no need to be with anyone else, or to have sex with anyone else. I'll flirt a lot, but it's never with the intention of going anywhere. I'm perfectly happy to agree that there are people out there who aren't monogamous, and I hope that they find similarly minded people so that they can have a happy life, but I don't think it's fair to say that We, as a people, are not monogamous.
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