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Originally Posted by Pedestrian
Duga's post is the most worthwhile one in the thread. There's nothing in it I disagree with.
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Thanks! I've thought a lot about this stuff (as I'm sure a lot of people have).
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Originally Posted by djchameleon
I honestly feel sometimes that we aren't truly capable of being monogamous that's why it's such a struggle for some people. I'm fine with sharing my love with numerous partners and being polyamourus with others but society frowns on it like it's a big no no and shuns people that feel this one. I feel like I have so much love to give that for it to go all to one person is a shame but I know that not everyone sees it that when and whenever I get in a relationship my partner never sees it that way. They are more of the monogamous type and to keep them happy I push aside these feelings and try to be monogamous because I'm in love with that person so I make that sacrifice.
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Polygamous relationships are a product of culture and circumstance. In some societies, they have lived in polygamous relationships for hundreds of years simply because it fit their lifestyle. In fact, some cultures have one woman to many men. This is because there are very few females, so all the males compete for the attention of just those few. However, the more these cultures are exposed to western ideas of romance, the more that lifestyle will begin to fade.
Polygamous relationships in the first world are starting to take hold simply because of our fast pace of life. This is a very new idea for us. We simply don't have as much time to devote to courting and getting to know one person. Both men and women work full time jobs. The world demands results faster and faster. Monogamy vs. polygamy has nothing to do with what humans are "meant" to be. We will simply do the thing that best suits the way we currently live, and for the past few centuries, that has been to be in a monogamous relationship.
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Originally Posted by Pedestrian
Love changes. It's not perpetual motion. You can love someone, and then stop doing so. It does not mean that what you felt was false or inaccurate. It's just a feeling, and no feeling is an exclusive event.
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I agree with this. It's just like the human idea of happiness. For some reason, everyone thinks if we work hard enough we can get to some point where we will be forever happy. That notion causes so much stress and depression it's ridiculous. Happiness is fleeting just like love.
There is a reason couples need to do something to "put the spark back into it". They need to be reminded of the reasons they fell in love with that person in the first place. It is one thing to think of those reasons and another to feel them.
Haha...I think everyone can tell the things that have been on my mind recently.