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Originally Posted by chipper
This is probably the most cynical view you will hear today:
When people say they are "in love", it's actually vanity not love.
Everyone has an innate need to feel important. That’s a universal truth. That is up there in the ranks of ‘we all need to eat’ and ‘we all need to sleep’.
That is why people “fall in love” with others. When someone makes them feel important and needed, they instinctively get attracted because their need is being met. They get the attention that they want, the knowing that there is someone else that gives a f$%k that they are alive, that in the billions and billions of people in this world, there is someone that would like to spend time with them over everyone else.
No one falls in love with someone that makes them feel like a worthless piece of sh!t, right? “Love” always begins with a smile that melts hearts or a hello what was just a little softer than other hellos or glance that lasted a second too long. It is always when someone makes you feel special.
Then you stay. You stay because you need a witness to your life as it is beautifully articulated in Shall We Dance. You need someone there to make you feel things you do don’t go unnoticed.
I don’t know if it is romantic but I do know it’s still about the self and not the other person.
It is vanity… not love.
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I see that you address it slightly later on but it should have been in this post. I think you want to change some words around a bit. Lust and not love. You didn't even touch the surface of what love is. There are also varying degrees of love but I also see later on that you would like a definition so I will finish that underneath.
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Originally Posted by chipper
i can't believe i will ask this but fine...
what is love?
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You can be in love and not want to **** the person that you are in love with. The type of love I'm talking about is platonic love. Sure, you love your mother/father but you don't want to engage in sexual relations with them unless you are from Louisiana.
There is romantic love which tends to be a bit superficial based on romantic settings it is pretty much an extended phase of puppy love.
Puppy love is the initial stage when you are completely infatuated with someone but this type of love is part love and part lust. About 75% lust 25% love because you can't really love someone fully if you don't know them that well.
This last type of love I like to call Marriage love with can also be deemed true love. This type of love is after you have known the ins and outs of the person that you are with. You will go out of your way for them and make personal sacrifices sometimes for them. You will put yourself in harms way to protect them. You are also so comfortable with the person that you are able to use the bathroom around them and not care. You are able to get into fights/arguments with them and because of your love for them not take it seriously to the point that you will NEVER talk to them again. The reason the divorce rate is so high is because some people think they have this true love when they really don't. They just have really good romantic love connection but romantic love fades and that's why they have to do things to keep the sparks alive. True love doesn't need this same type of maintenance.