I think more than anything polyamory, versus an open relationship, enlarges the context of love based relationship. I don't think polyamory is for every relationship, even if both parties involved subscribe to the polyamorous ideology, but we have a tendency to approach relationships almost contractually, as if to say, Here are my expectations of you: you will provide for my emotional needs and have me as your exclusive sex partner. You will love me as I love you and any depth of emotion that you feel for another individual shall not meet or exceed that which you feel for me, and you will give me a majority share of your time and attention, as I will do the same for you. through these agreements our relationship will be defined and the breech of any of the aforementioned terms will nullify the contract.
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