Seriously delicate shiz here.
One of my best friends lives about an hour and a half away. For 4/20, my other close friends and I are going up to his place to rage. One of my close friends, however, has a girlfriend who is kind of clingy and is acquainted loosely with our friend from out of town.
She wants to go as well. One of the people going and I are adamantly against this, and her boyfriend also doesn't want her to go, because that might put our friend out of town and his wife in a bad position. They're not really huge fans of my buddy's girlfriend, but that's not something you just want to say to someone, you know?
At his place, the sleeping arrangements are two people sleep on the floor in a sleeping bag, and one person gets the couch. There's really not room for three people to sleep on the ground, or two to sleep on the couch. It really doesn't seem feasible for some reason to just tell her there's no room, though, because she'd be all, "Well [boyfriend] and I can sleep in a sleeping bag together," and that would be awkward to not have a back-up argument.
Also, one problem that a few of us are having with her is that we can't "trip" with her. When I'm just tripping with my friends, we have a great time, and no one's anxious. She was there, however, last time we tripped, and she brought the vibes down big time. She somehow managed to get me into the worst headspace imaginable to the point where I had my first legitimately bad trip in my life, she divided the room into two separate "countries" and wouldn't let anyone who wasn't my friend (her boyfriend) onto her side, and wouldn't let him leave it, and just overall made everyone in a not-so-good place. She also took something that I had picked up and determined was the only thing that made my world okay, and threw it in the garbage because she said I was being ridiculous, which led to me going into a really dark place.
I don't want her there when I'm tripping. She's very egocentric and has no regard at all for others when she's tripping. Even if I'm out of my mind, if I see someone who looks like they're having a bad time of it, I'll go over to them and tell them, "It's okay, dude. Don't worry. It's always been like this," or something to that effect. She just exacerbates potential bad trips with everyone to the point that it makes it uncomfortable or just plain awful.
What would be a good way to tell her she's not allowed to come with us, without seeming like a complete asswipe?
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