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Originally Posted by Tuna
You're left with a feeling of complacency about yourself, that you did the right thing.
If tipping the waitress made you feel terrible about yourself, you wouldn't repeat the process the next time.
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I loan/give my mom money all the time. It doesn't necessarily make me feel good and I don't feel bad about it either. I don't feel the need to do it either, I just do it because she asked. There are plenty of things I do for her like working on her car when it breaks down. She doesn't even necessarily need her car running she hardly uses it but I do it because she asked not because of any underlying need or complacency. My friends mother has Alzheimers and they could have put her in a nursing home many years ago but he takes care of her because he wants her to remain at home and be a part of their family. He doesn't have any underlying motive such as money because they could afford to do so. He just does it because he loves his mother.