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Originally Posted by Yac
Yeah, I don't post here often outside of several specific threads, though I knew who I was engaging, your reputation precedes you 
I assumed you were angry, just like you assumed I was a total dickbag, both assumptions were based on something, right ? Maybe if we assumed less and focused on looking for what we have in common instead of what differentiates us, we could actually be able to discuss important issues without it turning into a mess of personal remarks, goalpost shifts and strawman arguments ? It's a route internet discussions almost always take, which makes me sad as I view the regulars here as intelligent people, potentially simply better people than the random idiots that seem to be living online. |
See yac, the point is, that was my whole entire issue was commonality with other people, especially women. I have lots in common with many people here, especially the girls aside from Vanilla, and I count them as really wonderful people and felt that I needed to stick up for those of us who are female indentified because I don't want them to feel that there is something wrong with them for fitting into her snide definition of what makes a normal woman. Being compared with other women, especially the bad ass ladies of MB makes me feel all warm and fuzzy inside and I would count myself lucky to be told I'm like them. That is what makes me sad, that they should feel bullied and excluded from the community because of her bull****. That's what I would not stand for, so like I said, it's not just about me because her ideas on femininity mean dick to me because I am very secure in my feminine identity but not everyone is like me and they may be struggling with what makes a woman a woman, but just imagining how it would make other women feel truly hurts my heart. There is no way to remove personal remarks from this discussion as it would remove all possibility of humanity and credibility. You simply cannot be removed personally from this discussion.