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Originally Posted by tore
The biggest turn on for me is just basically when chicks are really horny. My ex was an animal in bed with a seemingly unsatiable appetite and a delightfully dirty mind. I would never cheat on my wife, but man how I wish she was more like my ex in that respect.
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I would say be careful what you wish for. If someone really has an insatiable appetite they are just as likely to look elsewhere for satiety. I assume your ex is an ex for a reason.
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Originally Posted by tore
My wife, being less sexually demanding, is generally happy with the sex life we have and has little real motivation to change things, even if she sympathizes when I bring it up. I feel like the problem just gets bigger and bigger. What can I do?  |
On the plus side she is happy with the sex life you have. I know the frustration of a mismatch in sex drive but a satisfied partner isn't necessarily a bad thing. I guess I'm just saying to keep things in perspective. It's easy to allow something to become a bigger problem in your mind than it is in reality. When something becomes an obsessive desire it's importance tends to be overly exaggerated. I'm not saying you are obsessive in wanting a more balanced sex life but just that I guess when you say the problem gets bigger and bigger it resonates with me that it is only as big a problem as you allow it to be.
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Originally Posted by Dr. Rez
Tore have you actually sat down with her and discussed what kind of things would really excite her in bed? Maybe she just needs something really new and exciting to her to kickstart it. I dont mean to get to personal but maybe getting a book or video on different techniques, whether it be breathing/oral/massage and practicing with her and learning with her is all you need to do.
Their are tons of books on not just sex techniques but karma sutra type stuff that is more spiritual and personal with someone you care about like your wife.
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I don't feel like you can learn these things from a book. Sex isn't really an intellectual pursuit. The best sex is just unbridled animal passion.