You know, I hate to talk to other people about my cool emotional problems, because I feel like such a whiny knob, but the thing is, I never feel the same way about them when they talk to me about what's up in their lives. The trick to mutually healthy emotional communication is not to beat around the bush or push away the advice people give you. It's not the sharing that stresses people out, it's the skirting around problems and making the other person feel like they can't help that does it. So my advice is to find someone who you can talk to, but don't necessarily talk to every day, like a casual, trustworthy bud, and just be frank with them, and even if they can't help, know they're doing their best.
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