Small changes, for sure. I've been with my boyfriend for over 3 years now and yeah, we have each made some small changes in our habits or behaviours in order to get along better with each other. It's also important to know when to let things go and not to nitpick constantly or be demanding and nag all the time. That's annoying and doesn't accomplish anything.
I'm not going to expect him to give up on his dreams and life goals, just because they may not suit ME. I probably wouldn't even want to be in a long relationship with somebody who was heading in a completely different direction in life, though.
As for friendships, I make friends with people who have similar interests and hobbies, and I just avoid the people who don't fit my kind of lifestyle.
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