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Originally Posted by John Wilkes Booth
i tried to make it clear i wasn't saying to snap out of it. sorry if i made it worse. i'm not saying i don't feel bad for depressed people. i was just saying depressed people confuse me. i don't really have any answers for them cause i know most people who are depressed have told me the side effects for the drugs you can take aren't worth it.
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There really isn't an answer to give someone. 99% of the time when you're depressed, you know exactly why and what to do about it (be more productive, be more sociable, don't pick your nose in public), and you know that for the most part that you're being irrational. But knowing the issue is meaningless when the entire problem is your uncontrollable inability to emotionally deal with it. Talking about it can actually make it worse, since now the depressed person is negatively comparing themselves to someone who may be better adjusted and wondering to themselves why the **** they can't be like So-And-So. Not to mention said better-adjusted person, whether intentionally or not, is coming off in your head like, "God, it's this ****ing simple, what the **** is wrong with you?"
Even talking to people just as screwed up as you doesn't really help. Neither of you are coming to any revelations, you're not saying anything the other doesn't already know, and it's not like you can both combine your uselessness into one functional human being. All you have are two people who are now aware that their new friend will be just as unreliable as themselves. And generally speaking, these "trauma bonding" conversations between two depressives, where they just talk about how ****ty they feel on a regular basis, are just about comparing scars rather than meaningful human connection, and often one-upping each other as to who is more worthy of pity, since depression goes hand in hand with self-absorption.