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Originally Posted by WhateverDude
Strictly hetero speaking there's nothing inherently desperate about it at all.
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if we ignore any societal norms when considering it, then it's no different from a man asking a woman.
but of course those norms are not set aside when most people are actually judging your behavior.
since the traditional rules of engagement are that the man is supposed to be the aggressor and the woman is supposed to be the object of desire, a woman who bypasses this process of waiting for a man to select her can be seen as disregarding the rules because perhaps she fears that the man won't actually fulfill his role in pursuing her. hence the stigma of desperation.
i'm not saying this is how it should be or how i see it, but this is the impression i get from people in general. see pet sounds' post above for a mild example.