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Originally Posted by GuitarBizarre
Not the point I'm making. What you're saying is pretty obvious. I'm just making the comment that its weird how people vilify bad exes, or people they've been close with for a long time but have then grown to hate, in such a way that they don't realise they sound like they just had really poor judgement.
The converse is people who endlessly justify hateful people as being "lovely on the inside" and desperately try to convince people that actually no, Big Billy "Thugg Life" Monsanto Von Fritzl just LOOKS like a big mean violent bastard, he's actually really loyal to his friends, he just can't stand two faces!
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Why is this weird brother? That's the beauty of an ex. You can make them into whatever you want , when you want, to suit your needs. We all have people like this, in our lives people that we loved, and shared bucoupe amounts of time with, that left an impact on us. And sometimes failing at something is the hardest thing to look at so we scapegoat because it's eaiser to compartmentalize it by demonizing that person. It's not ****ty judgement, we are attracted to people based on pure instinct that none of us really understand. You like who you llike and that's all there is too it . Is it a good arguement for liking an axe murderer? No. But it's the only argument. I'm used to it and look at like this. For example my ex, a real ****ty person, just a bad dude. Hell I got a text from his mother that said he's a bad apple. Now when yer momma turns you in and says yer a bad motha****a , you a bad motha****a. Anyway his current wife can't undersatand why in the world he still talks to me or has anything to do with me. (IE: seeks me out) I have tried to exsplain it to her over and over. And it's a hard pill to swallow that yeah you might be his baby momma or whatever, but you will never compete with me, because I am his ex. He can demonize me, he can villify me, he can romanticse me . I am imortal. And knowing that and being able to say that to another person is an exstremely self awear place to be in. So no I don't look at Lil's situation as a laspse in her judgement. And he made an impact on her, for better or for worse. I kinda look at like it's a badge she earned, she can do what ever she likes with his memory.