I look at it as sort of an self sabotage when you put up with it as often as you do. There's going to be kinks to work out in any band, and sometimes you have to switch people out until you find the fit that works as a unit. Do you fear that if you kick them out of the band, you won't be able to find people to replace them? And if you do get new people, then do you fear that you'll run in to the same problem where the other band members aren't as driven as you and not taking it as seriously? Either of those things can happen. But there's that sacrifice that has to be there if you want it to work.
If it were me in your shoes. I wouldn't want people around me that don't have the bands best interest in mind or seem to lack the drive or commitment to succeed with it. You're keeping yourself in the same cycle when you allow them to remain in the band. If they haven't gotten serious yet or listened to you asking them to put in the effort that you do, then they probably won't at all. Bands have dissolved or disbanded over things like this all throughout music history. That's why I mentioned that in my own opinion, you're sabotaging your bands potential to make it anywhere by keeping seemingly uncommitted musicians in the mix, you're just staying in one spot.
I wouldn't just kick them out right now either though. Look for some people that will show they're committed, serious, as passionate as you are for the band to make it anywhere. When you find these people. Let your current band members go. You can't make progress when you have people not willing to commit hanging around and filling up space.
To settle for less is selling yourself short. Get people that are with you in every aspect of the word. You should see progress towards where you want things to go.
Best of luck.
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