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Originally Posted by FETCHER.
I'm coming here to ask this because I'm not sure where else to go with it or who else I can ask the advice of.
My boyfriend has been messaging a few of his exes (which I don't mind too much) throughout the 2 years of our relationship, it's never regular contact but he left his Facebook on his PC last night and I read through his messages (which I know I definitely should NOT have done, I feel guilty for this) but he messaged his ex at 3am telling her she looked really well and she replied saying he looked swav too and then they were started the conversation, they were flirtatious or anything but they were definitely more friendly than in comfortable with. Considering if I get dressed up for a night out or dinner with him he doesn't tell me I look nice/beautiful anything this has annoyed me a considerable amount.
I don't know what I should do because I don't want to break my trust with him because I read his messages and end up falling out due to my own stupidity but I also want to make it clear that I'm not comfortable with them having a converaation other than a brief catch up.
I really don't know what to do and I'm at a loss here.
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Don't offer the information that you read his stuff because you had a very human moment of snooping. But if confronted with it don't lie.
You are a beautiful girl darling you light up a room, and there are tons of guys that would have you and do what he's not doing. I'm not saying dump him, what I am saying is know that you are the total package and if he keeps the **** up and you are not are not feeling it anymore, then talk to him. DON'T OPEN WITH "HEY I READ YOUR FACEBOOCK CO
CKSUCKER."
That will only shift everything in the argument on to you and allow him an easy escape by using you and your transgressions as the focal point.
There is no way to get a man to say you look nice without sounding insecure and needy this is one of those suck it up wheezer, moments. I am sorry darling I hate to say that to you, without being able to say girl step yer game up to go with that. Because you already are breathtaking so I dunno how else to help, usually if a gf said that to me I would tell them well honey take a little more pride in yer self and actually spend that extra hour with make-up if the situation calls for it. But like I said you already do the work, (judging from yer pics.)
I hope this helped
If you need anything you know where my in box is.
