depends on the love for me. if i'm married the first time and i'm so completely in love and he changed my life in every way.. it was the OMG kind of love.
then remarried after he died, but it wasn't the OMG kind of love like nothing done with this new man was as great nor as special as it was with hubby # 1 then i'd put in my will i'd go next to Hubby number 1 cause it is till death to us part and he had my heart first and the only way he broke it was by dying
then or i'd say **** it and burn me