Originally Posted by Ninetales

Oh yeah for sure, and I know that if I was in the other guy's or your position id be devastated and rightfully pissed. I don't think this whole thing has really sunk in yet either. Its been a whirlwind couple weeks; I might have a better understanding of where my heads really at when this all gets closer to resolution.



I agree with you overall I think, but there are a few wrinkles in my situation that muddy the waters a bit. She absolutely means a lot to me, whether as just a friend or more, but I can see the logic behind this not working out for us. One major point is shes got 3 kids, one of which she had with her current bf and I mean im just some dumb guy with little knowledge in that department who still goes on drunk benders. So I mean this wouldn't be a small commitment, especially for someone like me whos uh not the best at relationships. Ive talked myself through being down for this, but certainly from her view this might not look ideal.

Ive got the feeling that shes either decided to stick it out with her bf and not tell me, or hasn't decided yet and is leaving both doors a bit open (though we have stopped sleeping together for the time being). Either way, as much as I would like something good to come from this, Im not willing to just wait around indefinitely for her to make up her mind.

Originally Posted by J.R.R. Tolkien

There is only one bright spot and that is the growing habit of disgruntled men of dynamiting factories and power-stations; I hope that, encouraged now as ‘patriotism’, may remain a habit! But it won’t do any good, if it is not universal.