ChelseaDagger

Here is some insight on women...

(Note: I am NOT referring to the screeching, foaming at the mouth SJWs... stay away from man-haters; they are not fit for relationships and will only serve to whittle away yor confidence even more.)

Ki, you are your own worst enemy when it comes to relationships (you are already aware of this, I know), and unless you get out of your comfort zone and shift your current attitude towards yourself (and relationships in general), then your love life will become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

Women are pretty basic. The first mistake you can make is taking seriously anything they SAY that they want out of a relationship... Women are constantly bull****ting about how they want a nice, sensitive guy who will respect their space and independence, blah blah blah... It's ****ing bull****.

Women want a guy who will chase them (it makes them feel desireable). Women want a guy willing to take a chance, risk rejection, and possibly humiliate himself in an effort to pursue them (why should they take a risk on a guy who doesn't even consider them worth the risk?). It doesn't matter whether you are confident or insecure, the fact that you're actually making an effort is all that counts. Dont wait for them to come to you. You go to them. Be direct. Dont be wishy washy. Be decisive. Women, above all else, seek security; indecisiveness and cowardice is the furthest thing from security. Don't just offer them a shoulder to cry on and expect that everything will fall into place... Nothing will get you in the friend zone faster.

You have to be willing to face rejection. Over and over again. Even the most desirable alpha males get rejected (more often than you might think). But they go for it anyway, pick themselves up, and don't waste time wondering in abstract terms whether they are good enough.

Lastly, command respect. Women can't respect a guy who doesn't respect himself, a guy who kisses her ass, is afraid to disagree with her, and afraid to stand up for himself when she's acting like a ****. Any girl who can't handle the dynamic I just described, is looking for a doormat, not a boyfriend. Good riddance I say.

Sorry, Ki. Tough love. I hope you take it as a challenge and not a reason to beat yourself up even further. You know I'm right, the question is whether your fear of rejection and heartache will control where you go (or stay) from here.