Originally Posted by The Batlord

Best advice is to stay out of it as much as possible. Nothing you can do will make anything better and can only make your life harder. That's their ****, their dynamic, and if you wanna lend an ear that's fine(ish), but keep your advice and involvement to a minimum. This is one of the most traumatic experiences of these people's lives and there is nothing your irrelevant ass can do about it besides complicate an already maddeningly complex issue.