Originally Posted by Chiomara
-Fetishes (are they necessarily indicative of something being deeply wrong psychologically, would you say, or are they harmless? And have you ever dated anyone that unexpectedly revealed something like that? Note, I'm talking about actual fetishes, not kinks. Everyone has kinks.)
I'm not a neuroscientist so I can't comment on the psychological side of things, but I will say people can live normal lives with fetishes and are generally harmless. I've never been with anyone who had a fetish, just kinks.
-Polyamory and open relationships vs. monogamy (and marriage I guess too)
I'm totally accepting of open relationships. I think they are generally unhealthy because human nature, but for some people it works. Most often the problem is(like most relationships) a lack of communication.
-Sex doll hoarders (I'm always surprised that there hasn't been any films made yet about sex dolls who gain sentience and terrifying magical powers)
I have no experience with this, but I really don't care what you do with any inanimate object.
-Camgirls and sex workers in general (and society's treatment of them)
Society is the reason they have a job. I have no problems with what they do. In fact, I wish they had more support/backing to reduce the spread of disease (porn as well).
-Overall sexual repression in Western society (maybe repression isn't quite the right word.. ofc people talk about sex plenty and explore plenty in private with their significant others. But it seems like sex is either over-glorified and romanticized or just ignored entirely in regards to its effect on our well-being.)
Ridiculous. America's views on sexuality are illogical. We are taught from a young age to be embarrassed by the human body and sheltered from sex education, and then thrown into an adult society dominated by "sex sells" business campaigns. It has a lot to do with the backwards religious foundation of America, and I hope it changes eventually. It's amazing how we can be so incredibly prude and sexually charged simultaneously.
-Asexuality and the apparently poor understanding of it amongst the general public
Don't know much about it. Don't care what you're into if it's not harming others.
-Porn (do you think it--boring vanilla porn, even-- leads to desensitization, and is that a bad thing for people still developing/learning sexually?)
Porn is actually a serious problem. I don't think porn in and of itself is bad, but with the ease of accessibility in modern times, it is definitely leading to problems like early ED, desensitization, and unhealthy sexual development.
-Unfair (?) expectations among the opposite sex in terms of physical appearance or sexual performance
Another problem partially to blame on porn. Also has a lot to do with America's artificial standards of beauty. Ultimately, I don't think it's that big of a deal because while our expectations may be high they don't prevent us from "settling" and finding happy/healthy relationships.
-Vast age differences in relationships (does the potential power imbalance make them unhealthy?), age of consent and also "sugar babies"
...Plus whatever else that may be vaguely related to the above.
I think after 25ish (young professional age), 10 or so years is perfectly reasonable. Before that it's probably best to date people within a couple years of you for practical reasons: common interests, life experience, current goals, relationship expectations.
Sugar daddy/momma thing. Eh, not for me, but it's their choice. I just hope it's genuine and not gold digging bs.
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