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Originally Posted by grindy
Good luck.
Haven't you two married just a few months ago?
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We've lived together for nearly 3 years but yes - we only wed about 7 months ago. The abuse and mental illness were present early on, but I remained patient (perhaps far longer than I should have) and was encouraging with the hope that she would seek counseling, medication, and be proactive to improve her situation.
Sadly, things only got worse after she moved in with me. And after a few of life's slings and arrows, she spiraled downward into severe mental illness, financial dependency, mania, rage fits, verbal abuse, a complete lack of hygiene, and generally stopped caring for herself.
I won't bore you with the gory details, but suffice it to say that she's been very sick for a long time and that the relationship has been irreparably unhealthy.
I've endured abusive relationships in the past - my last before the marriage was 7 years with a verbally and physically abusive hoarder who similarly let her life collapse and who was also completely financially dependent on me. I'm not going to wait through another 6 years of the same, and instead I'm taking the necessary action to better the circumstance for both myself and for my wife. This will force her to take responsibility for herself, to find a job, and to seek therapy.
I apologize for the mess. I'm tidying up presently.