Saturday was, thankfully, my abusive former spouse's exit from my home. She took everything which wasn't nailed down, from home goods to appliances to furniture... leaving me with a startlingly empty home. I spent that night purging my abuser from social media, along with all of our mutual friends whom she'd been lying to for months in an effort to protect myself.
Quite sadly, I learned the next day that one of my closest remaining friends, (I do not yet know who), has been sending my ex-wife every private email I'd sent them about the status of the divorce, and that they'd shared with her Saturday's friends-only statement - my first ever divorce-related remark to social media since the beginning of the ordeal. It's frightening knowing I have false friend jeopardizing my future safety, even after purging anyone I'd any doubts about, and I'm not sure how to proceed. But I'll do what I can.
I'll share the FB post here, as it was an important statement about where I am right now:
Dear friends, today a major chapter of my life comes to a close and a new one begins. I want to thank you all from the bottom of my heart for your continued friendship throughout the transition, and for your faith in me in spite of the barrage of dubious allegations posted in an effort to defame my character.
Thankfully, my friends and even mere acquaintances saw through the untenability of those statements. You each reached out to me and said, “ISB… I know this isn't you… what is REALLY going on?” I took great comfort in your faith and support. I’ve taken a proactive approach to freeing myself of psychological, verbal, emotional, and physical abuse and will emerge stronger from this than ever before.
Sadly, to protect my safety, I've had to end over 75 friendships, some of them 20 years in the making. It makes me terribly sad to say goodbye, but I must do this to create a safe and healthy space for my future.
So a new day begins. I feel empowered by my decision to create a more positive life for myself, both professionally and personally, and I’m grateful for your support.
