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Originally Posted by OccultHawk
I don’t think so. Caring for an infirmed parent is an unavoidable natural order of things. A sibling is an especially ****ty hand.
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well there is that. Pros: you're, as I said, usually on somewhat the same age level so you can communicate better. With a much older mother or father you might be dealing with senility or Alzheimers, which would I think make things much harder. Also, within certain limits the person will be able to do things for themselves (though Karen can't even feed herself so I'm not quite sure where I'm going with that one) .. not that many pros really. I guess feeling you're fulfilling your obligation to your sibling is a nice feeling.
Cons: Both of you are likely to live longer, therefore the time is going to be a larger chunk out of your life (possibly close to your whole life). Patient, as it were, can answer back. If you're looking after a parent, a lot of soothing and nodding and stuff can work - you probably get "You're a good boy/girl" a lot. Perhaps easier to please.
Not sure where that leaves me, but I think I'm happier knowing I can leave Karen watching a movie and generally not have to worry about her for that hour or more, and if she needs me she has a pendant to call me.
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Originally Posted by Black Francis
I didn't know you were in a similar situation as the friend i had. Respect to ya for having a stronger resolve.
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Hmm, sorry. I thought everyone knew. My 47-year-old sister has had MS since 2001, bedbound since 2006, virtually totally dependent on me since 2010.
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This is bullsht anti tobacco propaganda. You would it feel it burn when it reached the filter.
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Yeah but by then the house could be on fire. The ash only has to hit the carpet, surely, and it will begin to smoulder? This is why I used to worry about Karen smoking in bed, and why I now have to hold the cigarette and ash tray for her while she smokes.
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Originally Posted by Janszoon
Yeah, I took a month off from MB recently because of all the crap I've been dealing with. It's actually the longest absence I've had from this place in ten years.
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Really sorry to hear about your trouble, Jansz. You usually seem like such an upbeat person, it's hard to think of you being depressed. Hope it all works out.
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Originally Posted by The Batlord
I wish I wasn't scared of mid-sized ladders or I'd just go to the tallest building around and take the guess work out of suicide. I also wish I lived in an area with taller buildings.
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I reckon throwing yourself off a building is a horrible way to go. Those few seconds as you plunge probably feel like hours.
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Originally Posted by elphenor
if it was a medical procedure you could opt for most days I'd probably seriously consider it, takes so much effort to keep living
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