Originally Posted by WWWP

@Mindy, so to answer your question, yes you can refer to Tristan by their name. No one is suggesting you don't use their name. But hopefully I've helped make it a little more clear about what we're talking about when we're talking about pronouns. If you don't use Tristan's name, you should use the pronouns they, them, or theirs, because that is their preference.

Originally Posted by J.R.R. Tolkien

There is only one bright spot and that is the growing habit of disgruntled men of dynamiting factories and power-stations; I hope that, encouraged now as ‘patriotism’, may remain a habit! But it won’t do any good, if it is not universal.