Ooh that's an interesting point/comparison Bat.
(God I desperately need an e-reader.... I have so many hoarded books that I wish to read but they're all PDFs and I hate reading on my laptop)
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Originally Posted by Lucem Ferre
I've never been cyber stalked by a creepy adult in my adolescence though.
I wonder how many women on this very forum have an experience of genuine fear due to a man stalking or being overly aggressive.
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I have soooooo much experience with that. So much. Glad I finally taught myself EMDR to help with the resulting trauma and fear
(obviously it's not the same as going to an EMDR trained/certified therapist, but whatever, I'm poor and some therapists have said it's fine to do on your own if that's your only option)
Anyway yes, what Marie said, and also
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Originally Posted by elphenor
I don't normally say "but men too!"
but men are also taught to get all of their worth from the admiration of the opposite gender...it is very toxic
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Yes I'm aware but I didn't have time to write a full, thorough dissertation-length post covering all of THAT too in part because I am not male. I wasn't starting a who-has-it-worse contest, I was just talking about a distinctly female experience that
IMO MAY POSSIBLY feel more degrading, punishing, confusing and icky than the kind of social conditioning --specifically the kind relating to how one views their body and how one should exist within/decorate their body-- boys and young men experience. But yes it's toxic all around as Marie said. I am not negating men's own uniquely horrible struggles in our toxic clown world merely by talking about some specific thing women commonly experience.
Aside from all that, humans in general have a tendency to want to seek out outside sources to derive their self-worth/self-esteem from rather than within themselves/more healthy sources, so. I'm obviously aware of the obvious things, mr obvious.