I'm always a bit wary of those who right off the bat demonize ALL their exes, call ALL of them "crazy" etc. (..Or any of them, for that matter, unless obviously there's clearly a good reason for it.) Oftentimes they are in fact the crazy ones, and psychologically torture and gaslight everyone they date until they nearly are crazy.
But then there are those who habitually get sucked into the orbit of destructive people genuinely without consciously meaning to; in some cases this is clearly due to an abusive upbringing coupled with a lack of self-esteem. Manipulative/abusive/narcissistic types can sniff out that specific type of vulnerable person from MILES away.
Soo I try not to immediately judge a person for their exes. Not until I learn more about it (even though obviously you're only getting one perspective, unless you stalk the other one online a little to find their side of the story, which I've done before) and see if there's a distinct pattern in their relationships or not (their endings and beginnings etc).
I see no problem with discussing exes or just past relationships in general. It's usually enlightening. obviously it's something that is bound to come up when having an honest discussion about one's past mistakes or psychological issues.
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formerly Chiomara
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