Tbh I am just asking.. I don't have it worked out myself I am just trying to understand.
But intuitively my first instinct is that it's a common and easy narrative to just put the blame on societal expectations but then there also just is personality traits that might come somewhat naturally or easily depending on who you are.
Ftr I don't think you're that much of an anomaly. I've met plenty of tomboyish lesbians. It's just an interesting question.. Are they conditioned to be tomboys or do they just see two basic options (boyish vs girly) and pick the one that appeals more to them? And if so, is that any different from the boys who do the same?
You can say there shouldn't just be two options.. and maybe there shouldn't..... But what does the third or fourth option look like?. Presumably just a mish mesh of aspects of the first two options?
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