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Originally Posted by jadis
Well you do talk a lot about "not feeling safe." And as it happens I do believe that MTFs are vulnerable... to whatever it's called when others don't return to you or project back onto you your preferred self image. I should really brush up on my psychoanalysis cause they've got all the cool words for this stuff.
But it can be called the basic ambivalence of human condition. What makes life so interesting is that you don't know and can't control what others make of you. It's a back and forth between you and The Other where little is guaranteed.
"You will use my preferred pronouns and affirm my view of myself or I'll get you ****ing fired" is when you're afraid of life's inherent uncertainty and need to coerce others into compliance. A power thing. Power often comes in gentle guises: "you should show more consideration," "be kind," "if only you do this little thing there will be increase in the general happiness" etc
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No, I don't feel safe because the GOP, the religious right, and even my own damned clinic are constantly talking about (and in some states, passing) terrifying laws and healthcare bans that will prevent me from continuing to live my currently very happy life as a transgender woman. It's not about "others not accepting my self image" or whatever and you know it.
I just want the conservatives to stop attacking my people. The only people "coercing others into compliance" are the people telling me I'm not allowed to exist as myself and enacting legal force to that end. In a perfect world I wouldn't care if you called me a man or used the wrong pronouns, I used to be pretty chill about that stuff because I could brush it off as just some *******s. Now those *******s are my country's government.
And yes, your precious TERFs are in fact contributing to this. I don't care how supposedly non-bigoted JK Rowling is, if you praise and validate and platform people like Kellie Jay Keen and Matt Walsh, you are hurting trans people. End of story.