Big3. I think that she isn't racist in the sense that she doesn't like the race. There are a lot of social faux pas in some cultural circles. A good example, Orthodox Jews are strongly encouraged to find and date and marry another Jewish person. This comment could have come from a few things
Mate preference: She has an idea of who and what she wants her mate to be. Part of the who is physical attraction and she has (just like we all do) a template of who we want to date and what fundamental expectations that individual should meet. I, for one, do not find black women attractive. I am not attracted to them, that is. I know they are attractive - I can see why they are. But I am just not. Even the most beautiful black women in the world get little more than a once over from me. Does that mean I hate black people? No sir. But something in me does not make that chemical connection.
Family Pressure/Influence: Her family has beaten the idea out of her. Some people ARE racist. Her family might not like the idea of a black person dating outside of their own race, or they can go ahead and do that... just not with my daughter. It could be ignorance altogether. We all want the best for our children - and unfortunately a bad light has been shed on black people - and in turn that could lead parents to steer clear of things they have learned to avoid.
Social Pressure/Loyalty: Interracial dating is still taboo, sad as it may be. Or maybe she thinks that is what you want to hear? I tell my woman alll the time that I couldn't see myself dating <enter girl we see in the mall, or know from somewhere> just to make her feel comfortable/loved. In reality, I could see myself dating some of these women. Maybe she's hiding the fact that she is sleeping with a black man on the side (lol, sux dude). But who could pass up Big3, am I right or am I right?
Sheer SCIENCE: I kind of mentioned this in mate preference. Love is a series of mental connections that comply with a similar and corresponding series of chemical connections. Sheer chemistry could lead her to believe that she did have the perfunctory, biological connections to date, or even conceive of dating a black man.
Maybe she IS racist: Shoot her.
__________________
|