Woman are just like men, if something in a relationship is screwed-up the people in it need to practice good communication, trust, and good boundaries. Not exactly easy. If you have those three then you don't have to "figure out" the other person. You should never have to analyze your partner in order to understand a situation or how to work toward a solution, that's an example of bad communication. You should never let your partner walk all over you, that's an example of bad boundaries. You can't have either without trust, and you can't have real trust unless you're able to say things that sound like your a dick just because it's truthful, or you'll never be able to communicate, and your boundaries are probably screwed in that situation too. It's having that type of real-world, ground in reality honesty that eventually (if worked on) will lead to the above three guidelines. It takes a lot of self-work on both sides, and is not the easy answer to everything but rather tools to deal with pretty much anything. I've been going on two years of this and is nowhere at all near having all three, but continually trying has made my relationship increasingly strong, so problems are simply (not easily) dealt with- even the hardest of them.
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