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Old 07-12-2009, 01:14 AM   #268 (permalink)
Miltamec Soundsquinaez
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Originally Posted by dollie View Post
i resent parents that don't teach their kids right from wrong. mostly the ones ive babysat for or encountered in stores. i am sooooo glad my parents taught me the meaning of NO. how else could i have developed a good sense of boundaries if my parents let me run all over them?
You're saying you need to say NO in the form of physical punishment?

There's an even better way, it's called assertiveness.

You develop enough of a trust and kinship with your kid, that they probably won't even have to or want to ask for some new gift, and if the parent says NO, the kid understands, and drops it. You know why? Because the parent has a good sense of boundaries.

That's why whenever you see some girl on Maury who snuck out at night and had sex with 13 neighbors at once, the mom is usually to blame, because she hasn't set well defined boundaries for herself, the kid picks up on that and has to seek attention and love somewhere else.
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