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Originally Posted by cavanherk
She's not necessarily bored of me, but she is extremeley tough to convince in the morning. She thinks she looks hideous or has eye boogers/bad breath etc. So I make sure it's still fairly dark in the room, assure her she has no disqualifying attributes, etc. but she is simply not. a. morning. person.
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I have a hard time thinking I will be able to change this about her, but I figured--Where else to get a few last pointers than the MB sexual experience thread?
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Hi cavanherk,
I think the crucial issue in your situation is that in the morning your significant other thinks she looks hideous or has eye boogers/bad breath etc., and so unless she has a chance to go to the bathroom, brush her teeth, clean her face, she will feel self-conscious and undesirable, and she will never feel comfortable having sex in the morning. Perhaps she'd like you to brush your teeth, etc. etc., too.
The issue I see people debating with you in the thread is a basic issue in sex: how much of sex is intended to fulfill your needs/desires vs. how much of it is intended to fulfill your partner's? When sex works best, I feel, both partners feel a desire to make themselves and their partner feel good, so no one feels "used" as a hole/pole for masturbation. The risk of morning sex, I think, is that the woman, if she's not up for it, may feel used. So, if she realizes that you find her so sexually attractive that the first thing in the morning you want to do is have sex with her just as she is, that could be very flattering and liberating to realize that you don't want to "use" her...you want to share sexuality with her, and this time of the day works well with your body's physiology.
Still...there are lots of issues to consider in your situation...is there a time constraint in the morning, for example? If so, that is a turn-off. If she *is* interested, then arousing her physically first (after teeth are brushed, etc.) is probably very important, too, since that helps desire pick up, like others mentioned.
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Originally Posted by savannah
sexual poll of the day,...
so, a friend of mine and i were talkin last night, and apparently she only masturbates once a week at the most
i've had that talk with some other of my girl friends and their numbers are also low,....
is there something wrong with me?
i'm going to masturbate atleast once, and up to three times a day, even if i'm in a relationship,....
how often are you doing it,....if you have to make up a really big number to make me feel better about it, that would be ok too
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Hey, savannah,
There is definitely nothing wrong with you. Different people have very different levels of sexual desire and interest in masturbation, and all are okay if they are content with how they are.
In my experience, my interest in orgasm picks up around the time of ovulation so if there were enough time I would probably try to masturbate twice per day if I could up through menstruation, after which my interest in sex and masturbation wanes and I could go without thinking about masturbating for 2 weeks. During the time after menstruation and before ovulation, if I *do* try to have an orgasm, it usually takes a lot more physical effort and the small feeling of orgasm that I get as a result does not seem worth all the effort, so I usually don't bother until I'm more easily stimulated/aroused (around ovulation). "Forcing" the orgasm just doesn't work well.
One note is that in my experience the frequency of masturbation did peak around the my mid 20s and since then there is just less time and interest...probably a combination of biology with life complexities. Spending three nights next to a feverish child, waking 20 times per night to give him water or hold a bucket when he vomits, isn't condusive to sexual meanderings. I've read that when it comes to orgasm if you don't have them often, your blood flow to the genital area diminishes and so it is harder to have an orgasm; and vice versa, the more you do it, the easier it is. So, the best way to ensure pleasurable orgasms in the future is to practice a lot in the present!
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Originally Posted by Freebase Dali
So not only can girls have multiple orgasms, but their orgasms are always amazing?
Being able to pee while standing up is no longer feeling like a 1up.
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The quality of my orgasms definitely depends on the time of the month (as described above) and on the frequency of orgasms (one by itself, vs. one after the other). So, let's say you have one orgasm that feels very sweet, very nice, then wait a minute (latency period) and try for another, you end up putting a lot more effort physically into it with more physical clenching and less sweetness resulting...ends up being more frustrating than fulfilling!
Now, here's my sex question of the day, Sexual Thread People. How young were you when you first experienced orgasm? Has this been asked here before?
I always felt like a sexual oddity, because I first had an orgasm in 3rd grade. I didn't know what it was at that time...but I liked it! During recess at school we played a tag game called "alligator" in which to escape the alligator you had to climb up on play equipment to get out of reach. I discovered that by climbing a pole several times I could get a sweet pulsing feeling at the top of the pole. A worldly classmate told me that feeling was what you feel during sex (and I always wondered how she knew *that*!). Needless to say, I spent a lot of my time climbing poles during recess from 3rd grade on.
An aside: one advantage I feel females have over males (but perhaps males can correct me) is that as a female I can masturbate without hands...just cross your legs, squeeze rhythmically, and, assuming you are "in the mood" and can concentrate...you can have an orgasm that way. Voila! Heh heh. That made college chemistry lectures a lot more interesting, let me tell you!