mr dave

do they actually need a bass player and does he know you play? if so, there's your angle. it's as simple as saying 'oh! you guys need a bass player? well, i started a few months ago, we should jam or something and see if anything clicks'. then find out what tunes they play and learn them prior to showing up to their jam spot or pick out a half dozen tunes you both like and would enjoy trying out.

then again if you're this wishy washy about just asking a guy to play music with him what are you going to do when you need to face a crowd from a stage?

seems to me too many young people take the idea of 'being in a band' to be akin to being in a long term relationship. it's not. at all. it's what you do with your buddies on the weekend instead of sitting on the couch playing video games.

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