Thanks guys for your brilliant input!
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Originally Posted by jibber
A friend of mine was doing the long distance thing for about five months, and she'd told him that she would be back home around November. She then got in touch with her boyfriend's mom, all his close friends, and arranged to actually be back a month earlier than she'd said. Her boyfriend's mom met her at the airport, stashed all her stuff, and then drove her to his house while he was at work. When he came home she was hanging out in his living room watching TV. He freaked out and said it was the best surprise he'd ever had. Of course something like that only works if you're in a very serious relationship.
Another friend wanted to do something really special for his fiancee's birthday. While she was away for a full day at work he rented one of those helium tanks to fill up balloons and blew up well over 1000 of them and filled her apartment. He then hid among all the balloons so she had to find him and her present. She loved it, but I think a big part of that was because he cleaned it all up afterwards as well.
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I really like the coming home early bit
I know how much one can miss someone. You could flip it around as well. I'm also doing the distance thing and if my GF made an unnanounced visit, wow! That would've been something.
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Originally Posted by mojopinuk
Everyones idea of romance is a little different i guess. I like to think that romance comes naturally to me and that i dont have to force it and im perfectly happy to be that way. Really though, i havent actually done that many romantic things myself.
For me, the best romantic gestures are something personal to whomever you are with and may not even appear so romantic to an outsider. I like to stay clear of things i consider to be too cliche or over the top to the point of it being vomit-worthy. For these kind of gestures i think they only work if its so over the top that its made clear to your partner that you yourself know how over the top it is yet you're prepared to do it anyway, even if it makes you feel embarrassed or like a bit of an idiot.
I had once agreed to send a girl a compilation and she was going to do the same for me. It wasnt really initially intended to be a romantic gesture, more just the sharing of a common interest we both had in music. I decided to make her a tape for her 18th birthday in which i chose a song from each year she had been alive. I never actually got to give her it but for me, thats a nice thing to do as it takes a long time to do it and its clear how much thought has gone into it and yet it is quite simple.
I also have some favourite places that mean alot to me, that are quite peaceful or visually quite beautiful and as far as im concerned taking someone to one of these places where you can be alone and also share this place with the other person is just as romantic as doing something over the top like blowing up 1000 baloons and putting them in some girls house. (Sorry, i didnt like that one. The other story was good though.)
I just think the best romantic gestures should be simple but show that you have put alot of thought into sharing something that is important to you with another person or something that shows how well you know them and what it is they enjoy and is important to them.
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I think I'm quit good at the little things you mention, like good with words and expressing my feelings and hopes for the future and so on. It's more the extravagant stuff I'm not so good at. I've done some of the more sober things you mention though, particularly taking someone to locations that mean a lot to you. I have a hundred of these little places that I used to love as a kid dispersed along the south coast of Norway. We don't live down there, so these are places we visit in the summer. For example there's a valley where I used to chase sheep and it meets this fjord which often turns emerald green in the summer months .. it's pretty secluded too, so a brilliant place to go, ehr, nude dipping on a warm day.
Last year, I took my GF to a place I've often gone freediving. I picked her oysters
I didn't think of it as a romantic gesture then, but maybe it was.
Your mixtape idea was pretty neat. I'm gonna try and remember that one.
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Originally Posted by Vanilla
Well, tore. My romantic moment was when my ex bought me a pair of diamente earrings and left it at the door, texting me to come outside. It was lovely. But I'm not fussy because I don't often get spoiled. My friend's boyfriend sent her presents to her house via a taxi such as flowers, chocolates and anything pink really. I'm not sure what your girlfriend would be into however, my final suggestion is that you a) think outside the box, b) be original, c) make her feel like a woman, and d) tell her how you feel about her.
That my friend, is romance. My additional idea is that you take her to a place you find peaceful/beautiful/of signifance.
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I'm terrible at getting fits, really. I'm not very good at surprising her. I do it rarely .. They had flowers on sale a little while ago, humhum, so then I felt I could buy and surprise her with a bouquet if that's how you spell it. Of course I have bought her flowers, but it's usually been on special days when she was probably expecting a surprise anyways.
Definetly room for improvement in that apartment!