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Originally Posted by nonsubmissivewife
I suppose this is going to sound extremely naive coming from a 30 year old woman, but I didn't realize this was as common a feeling as it is. It's nice to know I'm not broken! Or not alone in being broken.  I'm hoping Janszoon's wrong and it's not simply a part of becoming an adult though, lol. Realizing that we all grow apart from old friends as we get older...is it so wrong to expect new ones to take their place? Or maybe we're so closed off we can't make new friends. Hmmm...thoughts to ponder... |
I think the general idea behind it is that most people, as they grow older, start families and/or careers and that results in a different focus and different priorities for their lives. Most people will still have friends after that, but are unable to dedicate the time and energy into a friendship like they could when they were younger, and that probably results in weaker connections between friends. Weaker connections usually don't foster the kind of trust that strong ones do, so it may feel like a sub-par friendship to many because they find themselves comparing it to friendships they've had when their entire lives were only about their friends and nothing else.
I wouldn't be right to say it's impossible to have very good, close friends as an adult with a family or what have you, I mean, I wouldn't even know personally.. I paused my life for 6 years in the Army and I'm just starting it back up as a sophomore in college. but I think it's generally observable that most people just eventually find themselves placing more importance in other things than friends. And that has to be some kind of indication of something.
I could also be talking out my ass. I'm definitely not qualified to speak as a family man.