You're still forgetting that most people in a dating stage are putting on their best face until they're in the relationship and sufficiently comfortable. If romance is the initial and main priority, then that's going to be a factor.. for both involved... just on different levels depending on what each person is in it for.
The idea behind what I was saying is instead of going out specifically to find a new relationship or even expecting one in new interactions is going to undermine things if you're out for honesty. While it would be kind of hard to completely forget that you want to be romantically involved with someone, letting natural friendship become the focus is going to be a more informative relationship guide than simply being led around by your dick or vag.
Let relationships happen because of what you see in someone, rather than being the result of how hot they get you, is all I'm saying. And to append, give yourself the opportunity for someone to prove your instincts right or wrong before you're emotionally invested. However you do that is fine... But to say, as you basically said, that being in a friendship before a relationship is a no-no... that's far off the mark my friend.
I wish Hollywood wouldn't promote that kind of thing, because I'm fairly sure that a majority of people only feel that way because of them.
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