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Originally Posted by TheCunningStunt
Top top advice.
I'm pretty much going to go out for a drink, bite to eat and film etc.
Last time we went out, she tried to put her hands down my pants in public.
I hate public displays of affection, that said - I wasn't completely kind to her.
She's a bit mental and clingy, but she's also really funny and a good person.
I think last time, we jumped into something.
I think going out and seeing what she's like, she says she's changed and grown up a lot etc. so she might be telling the truth.
I'm going to make it clear that we're going for a bite to eat, hanging out.
Rather than putting a "date" stamp on it, if you know what I mean?
Thanks for the advice!
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Yes, it's certainly best not to say it's a "date" at this point especially. That may also deter her from attempting to put her hands down your pants again, but one can never be sure of such things.
At least then, if you're making it clear, she knows that she's going to have to make a legitimate effort to change. Also, that you've distanced yourself from her previously - well, that probably at least got her thinking about what she's done wrong in the past.
And if she says she's "changed", that may not be the case, but that means she's at least thought about things, and might have an idea of what NOT to do at this point. At least she probably tried - which is better than a lot of people, for sure.
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Originally Posted by James
As you can tell from my severly angsty teenage posts everywhere, I "think" i have a lot of problems(most aren't really problems though, by adult standards).
I feel incredibly lonely, I'm in that whole "I'm gonna die alone" mood all the time and I honestly don't see me ever meeting anyone 
I've never really dated anyone and although I have a few gal pals a lot of the girls at school really hate me. How did you all meet people? Have any of you felt this way? Am I gonna end up like Boo Boo?
I thought i'd post this as my other two dramas you've heard enough about I guess. |
I have felt that way before, actually. The way I usually meet people is by becoming involved in a lot of things.
For example, I've met the last three people I've dated in the following ways:
1.) I was involved with directing and performing in a shadowcast of "The Rocky Horror Picture Show" for a period of time, which involved interacting with a lot of other performers and audience members (I probably never would have met otherwise) on a weekly basis. This ultimately led to a relationship with a fellow cast member.
2.) I got a job, and often talked to my fellow employees out of necessity and to pass the time. Eventually, a group of us would get together, go out to eat / see a movie / etc. After a while, I left that job, but continued hanging out with that same group of people, ultimately dating one of my former coworkers.
3.) Doing community theatre, you meet new people with every single show you do. You see these people about five days a week most of the time, and build pretty tight relationships with these people. I dated someone in the cast of a show I did.
So basically, just become involved with a lot of things you're interested in! School is a way for some people to meet their significant others, but for a lot of people, particularly people more on the shy side, it's easier in a smaller group.
When the group of people is smaller and all have at least one common interest, that gives you at least one thing to talk about. Also, you generally are going to see those people in the setting of a smaller group, which gives you more opportunity to talk to them.
Like, do you write? Act? Understand / have an interest in working sound or lighting? Play an instrument? Draw or paint? Like reading books?
There are all sorts of organizations you can get involved with. Make sure it's something you like or have an interest in learning about, then go wild!