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**Exo** · 02-02-2022, 09:04 AM

Hermione legally changed her name before she died. Her legal name was "Hermione" and I believe "Dayna" was a real reminder of a life she was trying to get away from. I know this because I was young and didn't really understand gender Identity issues and refused to call her "Hermione". She stopped talking to me because of it.

I think the least I can do now that she's passed on is to remind people that she is to be remembered as "Hermione".

adidasss · 02-02-2022, 09:30 AM

I don't understand, both Dayna and Hermione sound like female names, how does gender identity play into it?

Lisnaholic · 02-02-2022, 09:37 AM

This is just a post about agreeing, really, because these comments have essentially been made by others already:-

Very good to have you back again, ribbons. I'm sorry that your family has once again been going through difficult times, and i hope your niece and others will be ok.

Yep, Dianne has left without a word afaik. I also hope she's ok and comes back soon. She's my South London compatriot and co-contributer to the Architecture thread.

Great choice of name, Queen Boo! congrats.

That's terrible that Hermione has died. TBH, on MB we seemed to dislike each other on sight, but it's shocking that her life should have been so short.That is such a terrible waste for anyone. She used to be in touch with DJChameleon, and I think they met a couple of times irl, but of course DJ has become another Missing Poster.

ribbons · 02-02-2022, 10:16 AM

Lisna, thanks for your kind thoughts (as always), and good to see you again.

Yes, here's hoping that Dianne will return and is improving health-wise.

Agree about the great choice of name, Queen Boo! Welcome back to MB.

I'd heard that Hermione had passed away, which is so terribly sad. I didn't know Hermione personally, but from what I witnessed of her on the forum she was very good-hearted and caring toward her friends. May she rest in peace.

Queen Boo · 02-02-2022, 04:45 PM

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Originally Posted by Exo

Hermione legally changed her name before she died. Her legal name was "Hermione" and I believe "Dayna" was a real reminder of a life she was trying to get away from. I know this because I was young and didn't really understand gender Identity issues and refused to call her "Hermione". She stopped talking to me because of it.

I think the least I can do now that she's passed on is to remind people that she is to be remembered as "Hermione".

Was it a trans thing?

Cis people have valid reasons to change their names too.

TheBig3 · 02-02-2022, 05:41 PM

I'm fairly certain she was from somewhere outside Saginaw Michigan. I only remember this because I constantly cited "America" by Simon & Garfunkle.

IIRC she either knew or suspected her parents would disapprove of her life. Either sexually or otherwise, but it's honestly been years. She was a really good person, and she knew how to spit fire. I was honestly shocked when WWWP told me.

Queen Boo · 02-02-2022, 06:01 PM

If Hermione came out as non-binary then we're probably using the wrong pronouns which sucks.

FETCHER. · 02-03-2022, 04:31 AM

I’m sure Arya Stark would know but she doesn’t post here anymore. I will try to remember and ask her the next time I speak to her.

**Exo** · 02-03-2022, 09:10 AM

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Originally Posted by adidasss

I don't understand, both Dayna and Hermione sound like female names, how does gender identity play into it?

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Originally Posted by Queen Boo

Was it a trans thing?

Cis people have valid reasons to change their names too.

To tell you the truth, I don't know. All I know is that Hermione went off on me one night in Tinychat because I kept using the name "Dayna", on purpose, because I was being a total assh*le. My guess is that name was attached so some serious trauma she was trying to get ahead of and saying that name brought it back.

I'm not sure though. I just regret being so ignorant.

The Batlord · 02-03-2022, 09:34 AM

The correct way to troll her is to say that the Ramones are the best punk band.

02-02-2022, 09:04 AM	#7241 (permalink)
Exo All day jazz and biscuits Join Date: Feb 2010 Location: NJ Posts: 7,359	Hermione legally changed her name before she died. Her legal name was "Hermione" and I believe "Dayna" was a real reminder of a life she was trying to get away from. I know this because I was young and didn't really understand gender Identity issues and refused to call her "Hermione". She stopped talking to me because of it. I think the least I can do now that she's passed on is to remind people that she is to be remembered as "Hermione". __________________ LastFM SUPREME POO BAH MODERATOR EXTRAORDINAIRE

02-02-2022, 09:30 AM	#7242 (permalink)
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02-02-2022, 09:37 AM	#7243 (permalink)
Lisnaholic ...here to hear... Join Date: Nov 2010 Location: He lives on Love Street Posts: 4,444	This is just a post about agreeing, really, because these comments have essentially been made by others already:- Very good to have you back again, ribbons. I'm sorry that your family has once again been going through difficult times, and i hope your niece and others will be ok. Yep, Dianne has left without a word afaik. I also hope she's ok and comes back soon. She's my South London compatriot and co-contributer to the Architecture thread. Great choice of name, Queen Boo! congrats. That's terrible that Hermione has died. TBH, on MB we seemed to dislike each other on sight, but it's shocking that her life should have been so short.That is such a terrible waste for anyone. She used to be in touch with DJChameleon, and I think they met a couple of times irl, but of course DJ has become another Missing Poster. __________________ "Am I enjoying this moment? I know of it and perhaps that is enough." - Sybille Bedford, 1953

02-02-2022, 05:41 PM	#7246 (permalink)
TheBig3 killedmyraindog Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: Boston, Massachusetts Posts: 11,172	I'm fairly certain she was from somewhere outside Saginaw Michigan. I only remember this because I constantly cited "America" by Simon & Garfunkle. IIRC she either knew or suspected her parents would disapprove of her life. Either sexually or otherwise, but it's honestly been years. She was a really good person, and she knew how to spit fire. I was honestly shocked when WWWP told me. __________________ I've moved to a new address

02-02-2022, 10:16 AM	#7244 (permalink)
ribbons Music Addict Join Date: Oct 2009 Posts: 1,265	Lisna, thanks for your kind thoughts (as always), and good to see you again. Yes, here's hoping that Dianne will return and is improving health-wise. Agree about the great choice of name, Queen Boo! Welcome back to MB. I'd heard that Hermione had passed away, which is so terribly sad. I didn't know Hermione personally, but from what I witnessed of her on the forum she was very good-hearted and caring toward her friends. May she rest in peace.