Men, are you more huggy these days?

alli-oop · 02-13-2011, 03:26 PM

My mom and I were out for breakfast yesterday and not too far away a group of 8 or so men, late 40ish, 50s, got up to leave and they were hugging saying bye.
We were talking about how you see that more these days, men hugging each other. It's becoming more accepted as men seem to grow up (I mean emotionally). It's really nice to see, kind of heartwarming. I bet they are more emotionally healthy as well, for several reasons.

So what about you guys? Do you hug your guy buddies more when you meet up or depart? Do you feel there's less negative stigma around men hugging these days? How does it make you feel about yourself?

~~Dirty~~ · 02-13-2011, 03:30 PM

Oh god, this thread is right down s_k's alley.

Only person I hug is my brother. I only see him once every month or two and I always give him a bro hug when I leave. I don't hug my friends, I'm fine with one of those handshakes where you grab hands and kinda bump shoulders, you know what I mean. I don't think hugging has anything to do with emotional health, I don't really find it heartwarming or anything. Some people are more touchy-feely than others and I am totally fine with not being one of those people. Seems like most people I've been around are the same way. I don't really think there's a negative attitude towards people who hug, I couldn't care less what someone else does, but for me it's just a little too close.

Kirby · 02-13-2011, 08:16 PM

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Originally Posted by Dirty

I'm fine with one of those handshakes where you grab hands and kinda bump shoulders, you know what I mean.

That's what I do.
I just don't hug my friends.

I hug girls, but not my guy friends.

Guybrush · 02-13-2011, 03:30 PM

It depends on which friends we're talking about, but I definetly have some that I hug if it's been a while since last time I saw them. I feel that by far, it's something that happens when we meet and generally not when we depart. Then it's bye-bye and perhaps a wave

edit :

The shake hand and bump shoulder culture is virtually non-existant here as far as I know.

Thom Yorke · 02-13-2011, 03:42 PM

Dirty sums up my thoughts about this exactly, even to the point that the only person I really hug is my brother.

Neapolitan · 02-14-2011, 09:57 PM

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Originally Posted by Thom Yorke

Dirty sums up my thoughts about this exactly, even to the point that the only person I really hug is my brother.

Ska Lagos Jew Sun Ra · 02-15-2011, 11:07 AM

Not in the slightest. I don't like hugging people, or people hugging me. Then again, I'm weird about touching. Can't stand hugging, massages, etc. Don't know if there's some freaky Freudian reason for it, but I can't really stand non-sexual physical contact with others.

**Janszoon** · 02-13-2011, 03:44 PM

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Originally Posted by alli-oop

It's becoming more accepted as men seem to grow up (I mean emotionally).

Is this sentence as sexist as it sounds or am I just misreading it?

Bloozcrooz · 02-13-2011, 03:59 PM

Uhh..no..im not for the hugging routine. Unless its a get together with friends or family you havent seen in a long time and your all inebriated. Then maybe its ok for guys to hug. Other than that im only giving my son a hug. For the obvious reasons parents hug their kids.

EvilChuck · 02-13-2011, 04:02 PM

I shake hands with my friends, as in the 'I have a job' shake - although I have one friend who I will hug if its been a while since I've seen him. I'm not big on the upwards pointing handshake with shoulder bump, its neither a handshake or a hug, but wants to be both.

02-13-2011, 03:26 PM	#1 (permalink)
alli-oop Groupie Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: vancouver, bc Posts: 42	Men, are you more huggy these days? My mom and I were out for breakfast yesterday and not too far away a group of 8 or so men, late 40ish, 50s, got up to leave and they were hugging saying bye. We were talking about how you see that more these days, men hugging each other. It's becoming more accepted as men seem to grow up (I mean emotionally). It's really nice to see, kind of heartwarming. I bet they are more emotionally healthy as well, for several reasons. So what about you guys? Do you hug your guy buddies more when you meet up or depart? Do you feel there's less negative stigma around men hugging these days? How does it make you feel about yourself?

02-13-2011, 03:30 PM	#4 (permalink)
Guybrush Juicious Maximus III Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Scabb Island Posts: 6,525	It depends on which friends we're talking about, but I definetly have some that I hug if it's been a while since last time I saw them. I feel that by far, it's something that happens when we meet and generally not when we depart. Then it's bye-bye and perhaps a wave edit : The shake hand and bump shoulder culture is virtually non-existant here as far as I know. __________________ Something Completely Different

02-13-2011, 03:30 PM	#2 (permalink)
~~Dirty~~ Account Disabled Join Date: Oct 2010 Location: USA Posts: 981	Oh god, this thread is right down s_k's alley. Only person I hug is my brother. I only see him once every month or two and I always give him a bro hug when I leave. I don't hug my friends, I'm fine with one of those handshakes where you grab hands and kinda bump shoulders, you know what I mean. I don't think hugging has anything to do with emotional health, I don't really find it heartwarming or anything. Some people are more touchy-feely than others and I am totally fine with not being one of those people. Seems like most people I've been around are the same way. I don't really think there's a negative attitude towards people who hug, I couldn't care less what someone else does, but for me it's just a little too close.

02-13-2011, 03:42 PM	#5 (permalink)
Thom Yorke Music Addict Join Date: Jan 2011 Posts: 1,848	Dirty sums up my thoughts about this exactly, even to the point that the only person I really hug is my brother.

02-13-2011, 03:59 PM	#9 (permalink)
Bloozcrooz Justifiable Idiocracy Join Date: Jan 2011 Location: Texas Posts: 1,244	Uhh..no..im not for the hugging routine. Unless its a get together with friends or family you havent seen in a long time and your all inebriated. Then maybe its ok for guys to hug. Other than that im only giving my son a hug. For the obvious reasons parents hug their kids.

02-13-2011, 04:02 PM	#10 (permalink)
EvilChuck #based Join Date: Feb 2011 Location: (Near) London, England Posts: 443	I shake hands with my friends, as in the 'I have a job' shake - although I have one friend who I will hug if its been a while since I've seen him. I'm not big on the upwards pointing handshake with shoulder bump, its neither a handshake or a hug, but wants to be both.