Originally Posted by Trollheart (Post 1921298)

Luckily for me I'm too ugly and boring for any woman to bother with me, but even if they wanted to, I couldn't as you all know. And on that note, at the risk of being even more of a boring, preaching **** than I normally am, I suppose it could be said that love is also giving of yourself to another person without any real regard for yourself. Giving up your job of thirty years to look after someone who needs you desperately to be there for them, forgetting all your friends and contenting yourself with this new existence you have to live.

Putting someone else first - always - and not resenting it. Except sometimes. But not blaming them for it. Putting your life on hold, permanently, for their sake, always being concerned with what's best for them, even if it's not what you consider is best for you, and just being as unselfish as you can be. Maybe.

When Karen's SKY TV was on the blink and she had nothing to watch for three weeks till an engineer could get to us, I unplugged mine and lent it to her, and contented myself with watching Netflix on the Fire HD stick. Now that's love. ;)

Originally Posted by Trollheart (Post 1921298)

Luckily for me I'm too ugly and boring for any woman to bother with me, but even if they wanted to, I couldn't as you all know. And on that note, at the risk of being even more of a boring, preaching **** than I normally am, I suppose it could be said that love is also giving of yourself to another person without any real regard for yourself. Giving up your job of thirty years to look after someone who needs you desperately to be there for them, forgetting all your friends and contenting yourself with this new existence you have to live.

Putting someone else first - always - and not resenting it. Except sometimes. But not blaming them for it. Putting your life on hold, permanently, for their sake, always being concerned with what's best for them, even if it's not what you consider is best for you, and just being as unselfish as you can be. Maybe.

When Karen's SKY TV was on the blink and she had nothing to watch for three weeks till an engineer could get to us, I unplugged mine and lent it to her, and contented myself with watching Netflix on the Fire HD stick. Now that's love. ;)

Originally Posted by MicShazam (Post 1921321)

There is no doubt that what you're doing for you sister is real love. It's heroic, really. I haven't ever met anyone who's sacrificed so much for someone else.

Originally Posted by MicShazam (Post 1921242)

I think this is why I can't really see myself with any woman I've ever met. I just know we won't really want the same things from life and won't be able to find some kind of daily rhythm that wont make one of us unhappy. I even ended a relationship back in 2011 and no one understood why. If she was so sweet and cheerful and we had fun together, why end it? But I just saw the boredom coming. She was a couch potato, liked watching daytime TV, didn't really have any interests the way I do, so I felt like I had to put a big part of my personality away behind lock and key when we were together. Doomed from the start, even though we never had a bad day together.

Originally Posted by Chiomara (Post 1922726)

Pretty much this. Which is why these days I'm much more fond of the idea of living with a bunch of friends who I love rather than just one person (a spouse or a boyfriend/girlfriend) who could vanish from my life any time if something soured between us romantically.

Originally Posted by The Batlord (Post 1922748)

I think you kind of have to be a boring normie who has no particular interests to expect to find The One without it being some crazy event where you get struck by lightning. Plenty of ordinary people can probably find someone they can live with forever when neither person has any particularly high level personality qwerks. Of course the 50% divorce rate kind of questions even that.