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RoxyRollah 03-23-2015 09:57 PM

Because they match you on your deepest compatibility levels duh.

Janszoon 03-23-2015 09:57 PM

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Originally Posted by HellCell (Post 1568881)
Yeah I should be walking in suit with a brief case and listening to classical all day.

How would that be "rational left sided brain" dating criteria? I'd think "rational left sided brain" dating criteria would be more along the lines of selecting someone with good genes for breeding or good job prospects or something.

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Originally Posted by HellCell (Post 1568881)
Anyways, I'm basing this off of objective tests.

Which objective test calls for a love of Digimon?

HellCell 03-23-2015 10:04 PM

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Originally Posted by Janszoon (Post 1568886)
How would that be "rational left sided brain" dating criteria? I'd think "rational left sided brain" dating criteria would be more along the lines of selecting someone with good genes for breeding or good job prospects or something.

There must be some sort of mis-communication between us, I never understood left sided brain being defined like that. I think that's just instinct you speak of there.

Anyways I thought you were speaking of stereotypical image.

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Which objective test calls for a love of Digimon?
I haven't found any that objects it. Anyways if it dinged me for arbitrary reasons like liking Digimon or animes of that sort, then it's not a valid test.

HellCell 03-23-2015 10:05 PM

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Originally Posted by RoxyRollah (Post 1568885)
Because they match you on your deepest compatibility levels duh.

There's a lot of common sense things I should know, but I don't. This is just the start.

Janszoon 03-23-2015 10:10 PM

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Originally Posted by HellCell (Post 1568889)
There must be some sort of mis-communication between us, I never understood left sided brain being defined like that. I think that's just instinct you speak of there.

You never understood rational as meaning rational, it's more about two people liking Digimon?

RoxyRollah 03-23-2015 10:12 PM

I was teasing you doll.No worries..Its sad Im an insomniac so I watch alot of tv.Sad I know their slogan really.

HellCell 03-23-2015 10:25 PM

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Originally Posted by Janszoon (Post 1568893)
You never understood rational as meaning rational, it's more about two people liking Digimon?

I think you're much older than me. Either that or you were one of the kids that thought they were too cool for Digimon.

You're tempting me to start a I like Digimon and I'm rational campaign.

Isbjørn 03-24-2015 01:23 AM

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Originally Posted by Pet_Sounds (Post 1568770)
I'm dating a girl who's into contemporary Christian hip-hop… so no.

Duuude.

The Batlord 03-24-2015 01:48 AM

Wasn't the whole point of High Fidelity to show that the idea that "It's not what you're like, it's what you like" is complete bull**** and will leave you a lonely British loser working in a hole-in-the-wall record store with Jack Black?

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Originally Posted by Pet_Sounds (Post 1568770)
I'm dating a girl who's into contemporary Christian hip-hop… so no.

I'm not saying you should dump her because you have different taste in music, I'm saying you should dump her because she sounds like a dud.

Mr. Sir 03-24-2015 03:01 AM

I don't think a different taste in music would pose an issue if I were in a relationship, as long as my eardrums wouldn't have to bear a constant stream of half-finished 'rap' sentences about smoking weed, waving with a gun and who knows what else. Of course dating someone with a similar taste in music will always be much more enjoyable.

Janszoon 03-24-2015 05:00 AM

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Originally Posted by HellCell (Post 1568904)
I think you're much older than me. Either that or you were one of the kids that thought they were too cool for Digimon.

You're tempting me to start a I like Digimon and I'm rational campaign.

I only have the the vaguest sense of what Digimon is honestly.

Black Francis 03-24-2015 05:27 AM

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Originally Posted by Janszoon (Post 1568938)
I only have the the vaguest sense of what Digimon is honestly.

I'll tell you what it is, it's something a grown ass man doesn't need.

They're also digital monsters who are champions

Nameless 03-24-2015 10:35 PM

They were like Pokemon but a lot less popular and had something to do with the internet. Like, they were in the internet or something.

But yeah music taste absolutely makes a difference in a relationship in most cases. It might be cute to have very different tastes in that early phase where everything is cute and new, but 6 months later if you're still hearing Garth Brooks or Aqua blaring you're going to snap and strangle them in their sleep or something. I guess partially it's a question of how different your tastes are.

The Batlord 03-24-2015 10:47 PM

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Originally Posted by Nameless (Post 1569289)
They were like Pokemon but a lot less popular and had something to do with the internet. Like, they were in the internet or something.

But yeah music taste absolutely makes a difference in a relationship in most cases. It might be cute to have very different tastes in that early phase where everything is cute and new, but 6 months later if you're still hearing Garth Brooks or Aqua blaring you're going to snap and strangle them in their sleep or something. I guess partially it's a question of how different your tastes are.

I think it would be the opposite. Never had a girlfriend, but the same applies to people in general. Having hobbies in common with someone is great. Gives you something to talk about and possibly something to do together. But in my experience, liking the same things does not mean that two people are going to have any chemistry together. I had a buddy who I bonded with over our shared love of music. He was a hip hop head, and I was a metalhead, but the level of our obsession was about equal, and we dug enough of the same stuff that we really bonded over music. After a while though, it kind of became obvious that, other than music, we really didn't have anything in common personality-wise.

And eventually life will happen, and two people will have to deal with some kind of issue together. Just because my girlfriend/buddy/whatever also likes Slayer doesn't mean I can count on that person when the **** hits the fan. They might be a selfish prick who leaves me to deal with something just because they can't be bothered, they might screw me over because of money, etc.

A person's character and compatibility with you is what decides whether or not you'll still be talking to them five years from now, and those are in no way connected with musical taste.

Nameless 03-24-2015 11:02 PM

I guess I'm mostly trying to say that a significant other liking music that makes your skin crawl can just be one more thing to wear you down. Music won't be enough to bring anyone together alone but it can really pile on... in my experience at least. I JUST DON'T LIKE PITBULL. Though the same person introduced me to Nick Drake and Film School many moons ago so maybe this is a selective memory thing. Pitbull's voice just annoyed me so much. Driving to the fair and there's Pitbull, hanging out doing stupid couple stuff and THERE'S PITBULL.:banghead:

It's kind of like dating someone who snores really loud or tells too many stories.

Aux-In 03-24-2015 11:10 PM

The ex-gf was into the Deaftones, Limp Bizkit, ICP and stuff like that when we met. Yes, I did raze her about ICP at least. Later on in the relationship, she switched almost completely to country music. So, yeah, when "punk-rock girls"* go mainstream. That said, music wasn't really that much of a consideration, and it's less so as I get older; basically, not even on the radar.

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A person's character and compatibility with you is what decides whether or not you'll still be talking to them five years from now, and those are in no way connected with musical taste.
Yes, having things in common is not the best measure of compatibility. Character, similar goals, blah, blah, blah.

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*("punk-rock girls" used for emphasis, I'm aware it's a different genre than the bands I listed).

Janszoon 03-25-2015 04:21 AM

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Originally Posted by Nameless (Post 1569289)
They were like Pokemon but a lot less popular and had something to do with the internet. Like, they were in the internet or something.

I also have only a vague sense of what Pokemon is.

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Originally Posted by Nameless (Post 1569289)
But yeah music taste absolutely makes a difference in a relationship in most cases. It might be cute to have very different tastes in that early phase where everything is cute and new, but 6 months later if you're still hearing Garth Brooks or Aqua blaring you're going to snap and strangle them in their sleep or something. I guess partially it's a question of how different your tastes are.

My wife and I have completely different tastes in music and we've been together for eleven years. Trust me, in the long term music taste is insignificant in a relationship.

Black Francis 03-25-2015 06:03 AM

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Originally Posted by aux-in (Post 1569304)
The ex-gf was into the Deaftones, Limp Bizkit, ICP and stuff like that when we met. Yes, I did raze her about ICP at least. Later on in the relationship, she switched almost completely to country music. So, yeah, when "punk-rock girls"* go mainstream. That said, music wasn't really that much of a consideration, and it's less so as I get older; basically, not even on the radar.

My Ex introduced me to SOAD and Pentatonix and i introduced her to Elliot smith and Rufus wainwright

There were days were i just took out my guitar and we sang together the songs i knew from the artist we liked.
imo she sang 'Be quiet and Drive' better than Chino.

Honestly, having a partner with different music taste can even be a good thing. if you become real close you end up inhering their perspective without losing yours.

Ninetales 03-25-2015 10:25 AM

I will only date a girl if she shares my hatred for ketchup and mushrooms. it might be cute for her to eat fungi for the first while but that's no way to have a real relationship am I right bros???

Chula Vista 03-25-2015 10:30 AM

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Originally Posted by Janszoon (Post 1569352)
I also have only a vague sense of what Pokemon is.


I know the whole Pokemon thing real well. My son had the whole collection of cards at one point. He was obsessed and made it a point to insure that I knew all of the details of each character.

Ninetales 03-25-2015 10:39 AM

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Originally Posted by Chula Vista (Post 1569396)
I know the whole Pokemon thing real well. My son had the whole collection of cards at one point. He was obsessed and made it a point to insure that I knew all of the details of each character.

I must have a special place in your heart then.

Chula Vista 03-25-2015 10:42 AM

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Originally Posted by Ninetales (Post 1569401)
I must have a special place in your heart then.

Not yet, but you are working on it.

davefischer 03-25-2015 11:08 AM

I could never date someone who didn't like Nina Hagen. You don't like my favorite band? Fine. You don't like Nina? MADNESS.

Frownland 03-25-2015 11:10 AM

It's not a deal breaker but it sure is a nice plus when you can play whatever you want without bothering them with the music. Only been with one girl that has great taste though.

Do you and Linn have any crossover, Chula?

Chula Vista 03-25-2015 11:28 AM

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Originally Posted by Frownland (Post 1569411)
Do you and Linn have any crossover, Chula?

70s classic rock? A ton. Gotta remember though that back when we were young there wasn't nearly as many music choices as there are today. I'd wager that 95% of our high school all loved the same music.

This past Saturday while she was working out she had a station on that played nothing but The Beatles, Stones, and Zeppelin. After the mid 80s we kind of went our separate ways - we're the same age BTW.

The Batlord 03-25-2015 12:03 PM

Oh my god. What if a chick I'm dating likes spiders? And keeps spiders?! If I'm over at her place, and she has some big ****ing aquarium in her room with a giant tarantula, what the **** am I supposed to do? I ain't gonna be able to get it up. Time to ****ing bail, dudes.

grindy 03-25-2015 12:07 PM

Having the same taste is a nice bonus, but I'd have lived an incredibly lonely life and missed out on so much if I had made this a necessary requirement.

Carpe Mortem 03-25-2015 04:26 PM

It's honestly always kinda been a requirement because my taste in music is a soundtrack to my life. I'm into my music, I require a dude who is also into his music and will not only not mind but in fact enjoy when I'm controlling the ambient sounds. What I think suits the mood, he's gotta think suits the mood, and he does. Our taste isn't identical, but we can talk music together for hours and know references and ****.

And obviously it's not all that matters, but yeah its kinda important if you're THAT into something. Wouldn't date a dude who had zero appreciation for my art preferences, either.

Black Francis 03-25-2015 05:27 PM

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Originally Posted by The Batlord (Post 1569428)
Oh my god. What if a chick I'm dating likes spiders? And keeps spiders?! If I'm over at her place, and she has some big ****ing aquarium in her room with a giant tarantula, what the **** am I supposed to do? I ain't gonna be able to get it up. Time to ****ing bail, dudes.

Did a spider bite your boner as a kid? whats the problem here? why can't you f*ck with a spider around? what kinda man are you!?

Chula Vista 03-25-2015 05:56 PM

Awwwww.......


HellCell 03-25-2015 06:58 PM

69 posts :D

This is number 70, so I break it! not you! mwahaha


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